You People at PC Hate me dont you!?

I've tried and tried to reach out, make friends and learn from others experiences. I post and post trying to get someone to to just listen, I rarely get replies and when I do its almost as if their asking me if I'm irrational, I'm no different then you guys I'm depressed whats so difficult about it? Its not some game I'm playing its a hurtful reality that is hard for me to understand I need help, oh well I see you all hate me......................................Goodbye pc I'm leaving.

i dont hate you, i like a lot of people here only read as many posts as my brain will allow and i only answer the ones i think i can relate to, not everyone gets a lot of replies to there posts, it depends were a post is and what it is about, a lot of people dont reply because they to are suffering just like you and me, i tend not to be able to read long posts as by the time i get to the end i forgot what was at the begining, please give us a bit longer, even if you just read posts and not write any for a few days

(((((((((((((((Moonkin))))))))))))))

Don't be stupid.

Tonight I have got PMs from people who told me how stupid, irritating, frustrating, horrible I am.

I just try and remember that they have their own problems, which are clearly far more severe than mine.

Many people here are scared to post much, which is understandable. Don't feel they are not listening to you.

Others (including me) just don't have time to read everything, flat out at work, and only get to read a bit of the forum per day. Having the energy to respond to people is also an issue.

Good luck and don't leave just cos of that ... more people read and identify with your posts than actually comment, I am sure.

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I've tried and tried to reach out, make friends and learn from others experiences. I post and post trying to get someone to to just listen, I rarely get replies and when I do its almost as if their asking me if I'm irrational, I'm no different then you guys I'm depressed whats so difficult about it? Its not some game I'm playing its a hurtful reality that is hard for me to understand I need help, oh well I see you all hate me......................................Goodbye pc I'm leaving.

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People have responded to your post below and yet you have not answered them. That is what keeps people answering you if you answer them. Just in case.... I just asked what your role is in your recovery....as your involvement is the most important of all... more than the therapist or anybody. I do not think you are irrational....in case you were thinking that was me.... just checkin'.

So answer the posts that people write to you and see what happens.... folks might get even MORE interested.,

Go for it. Again.... you need to step up to put out to be able to make progress.... just like therapy.

Hello Moonkin.
I am sorry that you are struggling at this time with your depression. The chat room is open for you to make new aquaintences. I hope things get better for you soon Moon. Take care and good day. Soidhonia

Hello Moonkin -- I hope you will rethink your interpretation of the facts.

You did not receive responses to a post you made when needy, within the time frame you desired. That's the fact.

The interpretation is that the reason this occurred is because you are hated.

Here is another face: One of your posts has 20 responses.

My interpretation: That is a lot to me. Sometimes, I don't get any or only 3 or 4, and it takes a day or more to get even that many.

Fact: You posted at 10:18 last night, and by 9-something this morning, started this thread about people hating you.

Here are facts that may give you reasons to rethink your interpretation of whether the lack of responses mean that people hate you:

Personally, I am offline and heading toward bed by 10 p.m. If I were employed, I would not see your 10 p.m. post until the following day in the evening, so I would not be able to fulfill your expectation of a fast responses.

People here are in many different time zones, with many different schedules.

As two people have already observed, we come here with our own problems, too. We are not professional counselors, although I have noticed that some people who have been here for years try to give back to the community by sharing during the times when we are strong as well as reaching out when we are needy.

As others have commented, many of us cannot read every post.

In sum, there are many reasons why people did not respond between 10 p.m. and 9 a.m. These reasons do not seem to add up to "We hate Moonkin."

Moonkin, are you used to getting your way IRL? this is an internet community where we ALL come because we're crazy. does it make sense for you to hang your recovery totally upon us?

i've responded to you and didn't get one word back from you. i realize you're young, but growing up can be a wondrous process and in the growing, you could be helping others here.

you can offer support........all over these forums.......this is not a one way street. and neither is life. a bit of a reality check may help you. i hope it does and i hope you stay. however, if you don't stay, you'll probably find that most internet communities operate just about as we do, except for one thing......we do respond more..........good luck, pat

I hope that you can see that your mind might be distorting how you view this forum...I think everyone has done an excellent job in response to your subject line.

This is probably the fourth or fifth post like this of yours...I don't think we can force you to see that this is a caring community. You will have to make that decision for yourself.

From one of your first posts you indicated that other forums didn't like you. Are you sure that is really the case?

I recall posting to you on a thread where you said you were leaving - forgive me for not linking to it, I'm too tired. I seem to recall that you did not respond (but please forgive me if I'm wrong).

Hate is an extreme emotion - please remember that.

I hope that you will do what you need to, to feel safe.

Moonkin, in your poem Build Me A Bridge, you ask others to build it, dearheart as with all of us we have to build our recovery with the help of Pdoc's, T's, and support forums like here, instead of expecting our replies accept what we give

Guys I'm extremely sorry, I am not familiar with forums, I don't know that your supposed to actually reply, I thought it was just internet talk......I"m sorry I feel so awful about myself I"m leaving because I did this to myself.

(((((((((Moonkin))))))))))))))
I'm sorry you feel that way. I hope you find the support you need by staying here, which would be nice-in real life, which probably would be better, or from another website.
Sometimes we have to accept what we're given. If you become too specific as to what kind of a response you want then you may lose those who are trying to care but aren't responding in the way you want them to. Know what I mean?
You may just be feeling very insecure and needy right now and that's natural with a depression. We care!!! Hold on, okay? We hear you!!!

((((((((((moonkin)))))))))))

please dont assume we hate you. we dont know you, we are here to listen and help if we can, sometimes it takes a while to get a response, sometimes you get lots, sometimesnot so many, but there is a support room and you can pm any one you feel comfortable with. please dont leave, you need helpand we are here to listen and try our best for you. sorry you felt so bad

jinnyann xoxoxoxo

(((Moonkin)))

I can see how you could feel that way. For those that have been around longer or who are, perhaps, suffering in a different way, may understand the 'norms' around this place. I'm glad you're here and commend you on your courage to speak up and say how you feel. Hopefully, these replies have put your mind to rest. It sucks being new, I'm sure we all can relate; we've all been new at one point or another.

It takes two to seesaw, doesn't it!!

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Sometimes we have to accept what we're given. If you become too specific as to what kind of a response you want then you may lose those who are trying to care but aren't responding in the way you want them to. Know what I mean?

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This is very very very true ... just recall what I said too, sometimes people don't have the energy to respond to you (nothing to do with you, obviously) so they might understand what you are saying, maybe identify with it ... but they just don't actually say it in a post.

I hope you stick it out a bit longer ... The other thing I will say (and please don't get upset) is that these 'I'M LEAVING' threads may get attention but they don't necessarily make others feel very good. I know, I have done it myself. People do invest time and energy into other people here, and maybe it's better not to put them through that too.

Just a thought

Hey, no need to feel awful Mookin.

Just feel educated. Now you know. It's okay, really.

Let's start from here and go on, okay?

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Hey, no need to feel awful Mookin.

Just feel educated. Now you know. It's okay, really.

Let's start from here and go on, okay?

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I think this is the right idea, Moonkin. No one wants you to go away. We were all new here once and had to learn. I didn't know that ((((((((((((((Name))))))))))))))) meant hugs for the longest time and didn't want to ask.

If it is helpful for you to post here, why don't you stick around a while? Of course, I respect your right to leave, too.

I don't hate you. I think you're cool for speaking up. You've actually given voice to how I've felt, trying to reach out, connect, blah blah blah, y'know, all the stuff you're supposed to do. I've been through a variety of searches tonight, as I am feeling most desperate and all I get are dead threads, trite refrains, and come to Jesus rants. Oh yeah, and the " we know your life is a waste but don't get too dirty about it." Way to stigmatize. (shakes fist) I get it. I hope you know it's not you. I also hope you feel better.