[sforzando]

Hello, I'm new here. But I needed to reach out and talk to people about this. I have a therapist I go to on Tuesdays, but I wanted to talk to more people about this. Essentially, my entire life that I have gotten used to for the last ten years is changing. I know its probably for the better, but I can't keep myself from thinking negative thoughts. Here is the story:

I graduated from college in May, and ever since then I have been depressed. On top of this my parents got a divorce, and my mom just moved out of the house in July. Now, my sister is moving back home from where she was living.

I've been looking for a job ever since I graduated (and before). I got a devastating rejection from a job that I really thought I would get, and it bruised my confidence. About two weeks ago I got a call from a recruiter saying he wanted me to interview for a position, but it was in a neighboring state two hours away.

I interviewed last Wednesday, and got a job offer that night. I negotiated a salary and accepted the offer the next day. I am thrilled about this job, and believe it will be very good from me, however, they want me to start ASAP which means I only have 2 weeks to search for a place to stay. Also my employment is on a trial basis, so I could be on for 3 months, 6 months, or 1 year. So I'm hesitant to sign a year lease. I also have a cat who keeps me out of my depression, so apartment searching is difficult because he is a necessity. Though I can leave him at my father's house if needed.

I thought I would stop feeling depressed once I found a job, but I haven't and I don't know why. I need some help figuring things out. <3 Thank you.

[vital]

Originally Posted by sforzando

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I thought I would stop feeling depressed once I found a job, but I haven't and I don't know why. I need some help figuring things out. <3 Thank you.

Hi sforzando. Congratulations about the new job. I have a suggestion about what might be going on with you. Because of the way I think depression works for most people (It's explained in these notes

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

), people who have depression end up living in a kind of autopilot without realizing that they are in it and are very uncomfortable with doing anything new. When your life is stable, you may not notice this so much because your usual routines continue to basically work, even if you are "in a rut." However, when changes happen like going to school or leaving school or moving or getting a job or losing a job, you really start to feel that you are incapacitated.

Don't worry though, there's lots of great stuff that you can do about it and most of it is really healthy for you anyway. I have some suggestions here:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/4262681-post105.html

- vital

[gayleggg]

I think it is only normal that you feel somewhat depressed even though it's great that you found a job, because there is a lot going on in your life. Your parents divorce has to have a stressful effect on you just as moving does.

I hope you find a place that will let you have your cat as our pets can be so much comfort to us.

It is risky to sign a years lease with a job that is on a trial basis but I'm sure you will do fine. Maybe you could look for a shorter lease and that would help with the stress.

Be sure and get plenty of rest as you will need your reserve energies for moving.

[Fuzzybear]

[sforzando]

I found a place for live that is short term, 3 month lease, but it doesn't allow cats. I'm happy about everything else, but the fact that I can't take my cat is eating me up...