[depressedbutterfly]

So my "friend" told me she is getting a restraining order. Why? I havent spoke to her in over a week. I haven't threatened her or or even said anything mean to her. I've only asked her why she has fallen out with me apparently I'm obsessed with her. No I'm going through a rough time and wanted my only friend to support me. Is that so bad? I have been there for her through anything. If she needed me I would drop everything at the drop of a hat. Isn't that what friends do? I don't expect her to do this. I text her like once a month asking how she is and I don't get a reply. I ask her if we could meet up when she's free cus I miss her. And I'm a bad friend for guilt tripping her. I ask her why she has fallen out with me? And I get a restraining order?? Can she even do that? I've only ever wanted to be there for her. I feel like I'm not good enough I don't know what to do. My partner says don't worry about it. But he has loads of friends and family.

[Fuzzybear]

oh dear . it sounds to me like she has a big "problem" .... (maybe she has issues with being close to anyone and is lashing out at you, or maybe she is just a b(i)tch. It's not you who isn't good enough. Please stay away from her, for your OWN safety. I'm sorry she hurt you

I understand, good friends are hard to find, I'm sorry you've been let down by this woman (and in such a nasty way..)

[vital]

Originally Posted by depressedbutterfly

So my "friend" told me she is getting a restraining order. Why? I havent spoke to her in over a week. I haven't threatened her or or even said anything mean to her. I've only asked her why she has fallen out with me apparently I'm obsessed with her. No I'm going through a rough time and wanted my only friend to support me. Is that so bad? I have been there for her through anything. If she needed me I would drop everything at the drop of a hat. Isn't that what friends do? I don't expect her to do this. I text her like once a month asking how she is and I don't get a reply. I ask her if we could meet up when she's free cus I miss her. And I'm a bad friend for guilt tripping her. I ask her why she has fallen out with me? And I get a restraining order?? Can she even do that? I've only ever wanted to be there for her. I feel like I'm not good enough I don't know what to do. My partner says don't worry about it. But he has loads of friends and family.

Hey depressedbutterfly.

Lucky for you, you've got a supportive partner. A lot of people don't have that. I like your partner's advice too, but if it keeps bothering you for a long time, it might be something to talk over with a therapist. - vital

[depressedbutterfly]

Originally Posted by vital

Hey depressedbutterfly.

Lucky for you, you've got a supportive partner. A lot of people don't have that. I like your partner's advice too, but if it keeps bothering you for a long time, it might be something to talk over with a therapist. - vital

Thankyou vital and everyone my partner is amazing. I'm so proud of him. I'm going to ignore her she's not a real friend. If she can get a restraining order then w/e I don't need negativity that isn't going to make me better. Thanks again guys

Originally Posted by depressedbutterfly

Thankyou vital and everyone my partner is amazing. I'm so proud of him. I'm going to ignore her she's not a real friend. If she can get a restraining order then w/e I don't need negativity that isn't going to make me better. Thanks again guys

I think it's a blessing in disguise. She sounds like someone to avoid. Let her get the thing, it will work out in your favour if you really think about it.

Just by you describing how you had to drop everything to be there for her, and how she can't even answer a text once a month, I'm already getting a picture in my mind of the type of human being she is (never mind woman), and it's an ugly one!

All the best