[doggiedo]

- I got a new job, starting next Fri.
-Started my PhD program last week- feeling overwhelmed and a little under prepared.
- Moved in with my bf last month, things going okay but has its ups and downs.
- leaving old job and friends (new job is an hour away)
- getting a hard time from HR about vacation time, so that's stressing me out

I know I have a lot of changes going on and with me changing health insurance and relocating jobs, starting school- it's all A LOT. I feel myself getting really snippy and easily angry. My bf is super supportive but he's also a little paranoid that he's doing something wrong. He's not. I'm just having a hard time and am a little sad, nervous and excited at the same time.

I have a headache today- stupid people emailing me silly questions that I've given them the answer to a billion times. And, they have emails from me in which they have the info so they can refer back to that and answer their own question.

Work is giving me a hard time saying I have less vacation days than I do. I work at a college with freshmen, so I give a lot of irregular hours to my job. And now it's like they are saying thanks, but none of that counts. And a boot out the door. I am always the one the put together the goodbye parties and bday celebrations. I doubt they will even do anything for me when I leave.

I'm not sure if I should check in with my psych doc or counselor. Idk what insurance I'm going to have as of Oct 1, so idk if I can even make a new appt- I'll have to change docs bc I'm relocating. Psych docs usually have a few months wait for new patients. I have to change all my docs and banks, etc. I don't know what to do but I know I'm not feeling right about it all. I wa Sao exited last week and now I just don't know.

[vital]

Originally Posted by doggiedo

- I got a new job, starting next Fri.
-Started my PhD program last week- feeling overwhelmed and a little under prepared.
- Moved in with my bf last month, things going okay but has its ups and downs.
- leaving old job and friends (new job is an hour away)
- getting a hard time from HR about vacation time, so that's stressing me out

I know I have a lot of changes going on and with me changing health insurance and relocating jobs, starting school- it's all A LOT. I feel myself getting really snippy and easily angry. My bf is super supportive but he's also a little paranoid that he's doing something wrong. He's not. I'm just having a hard time and am a little sad, nervous and excited at the same time.

I have a headache today- stupid people emailing me silly questions that I've given them the answer to a billion times. And, they have emails from me in which they have the info so they can refer back to that and answer their own question.

Work is giving me a hard time saying I have less vacation days than I do. I work at a college with freshmen, so I give a lot of irregular hours to my job. And now it's like they are saying thanks, but none of that counts. And a boot out the door. I am always the one the put together the goodbye parties and bday celebrations. I doubt they will even do anything for me when I leave.

I'm not sure if I should check in with my psych doc or counselor. Idk what insurance I'm going to have as of Oct 1, so idk if I can even make a new appt- I'll have to change docs bc I'm relocating. Psych docs usually have a few months wait for new patients. I have to change all my docs and banks, etc. I don't know what to do but I know I'm not feeling right about it all. I wa Sao exited last week and now I just don't know.

Hi doggiedo,

I've got some suggestions. Not everyone realizes it, but that stuff about being irritable, snippy and stressed all the time is a way of being depressed, and it's also classic for these things to come up when major changes happen in your life like changing your job and moving in with your BF.

One easy suggestion is to have a look at these notes:

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

They have an explanation of exactly what might be happening in your head and what you can do about it.

You might also have a look at this general plan

http://forums.psychcentral.com/4262681-post105.html

especially checking with your M.D. for underlying medical problems and trying out some activities that are good for depression and just super-healthy for you anyway.

- vital

[doggiedo]

Thanks. I think you are right. A lot of my anger and frustration is coming from my anxiety. Which comes out in my relationship. I think the first step is being aware and then try and ID some steps to deal instead of being angry.

[Fuzzybear]

[waterknob1234]

Doggiedo you do have a lot going on in your life. So many changes all at once. No wonder you feel stressed. Explain to your bf that you are not angry at him and that he is not doing anything wrong but that you just feel stressed about job and school and all the other things going on. Take a breather, take a break and deal with one issue at a time. Most of all take time to take care of yourself. Best wishes.