[qwertykeyboard]

Skipping sessions. Short emails. Loss of humor. Why can't she see my call for help.

[Fuzzybear]

[where_to_begin]

The T may have had other clients skip sessions and such in situations that were not calls for help.

In many cases if you need to make a call for help you need to do so more directly.

[spring2014]

my therapist has the same thing too.her clients don't call her when they need to cancel or they can't make it cuz they are ill or start a new job or school or other things that they make them skip their session with her . I call her for her guidance on something that I might not be able to handle on my own w/o her help.










Diagnosis: Anxiety and depression
meds: Cymbalta 90mgs at night
Vistrail 2 25 mgs daily for anxiety prn
50 mgs at night for insomnia

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by qwertykeyboard

Skipping sessions. Short emails. Loss of humor. Why can't she see my call for help.

Why dont you say "help" if you want help? Seriously, answer that, if only to yourself.

Ts are not mindreaders. Thats what my prev t/pdoc kept telling me.

[Argonautomobile]

Originally Posted by unaluna

Ts are not mindreaders.

That's so true. Being direct in communication takes work, especially if it's something difficult or "shameful" to talk about. Luckily, I've found T's are pretty good about helping us practice and get better at this skill.

I'm sorry you're feeling poorly and hope it gets better. Take care!

[UglyDucky]

Originally Posted by qwertykeyboard

Skipping sessions. Short emails. Loss of humor. Why can't she see my call for help.

It's really hard to ask someone (especially your T) for help, isn't it? Asking for help from your T may just be a big part of your therapy...and growth.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

Your T can only help you if you tell her what is going on. Can you call or email her and mention why you skipped your session and tell her what is going on? Direct communication is the best I think.

[nowhere46]

I agree that it is hard to ask for what you need. Maybe your T wants you to trust that she is there and wants to empower you to tell her directly.

[Nammu]

That sounds very maladaptive. One of the reasons for therapy is to change what doesn't work. try telling her directly that you want attention and help. If you can't say it out loud then write it and give it to her the next appointment.

[BobbyButthat]

Originally Posted by sidestepper

That sounds very maladaptive. One of the reasons for therapy is to change what doesn't work. try telling her directly that you want attention and help. If you can't say it out loud then write it and give it to her the next appointment.

Its the worst when you feel that you're the only one when you have someone to talk to because they make you feel special but there are others and you can't expect them to give you their full attention all the time so you end up crying on the bathroom floor or

Possible trigger:

cutting yourself

in the stalls at school

[SoupDragon]

Your T would be able to help more if you went to your sessions. I hope you can find a way of getting to your next one.