[Suffocation]

I'm lost in this online world.......I just got out of the hospital and I thought I was better. I've been working on a lot of issues with depression, anxiety and BPD but not online. This online world feels just as intimidating as the real one. I'm hurting so much. My daughter needs me to get better. The pressure to be perfect and being diagnosed with "Mental Illness" is making life so hard to hold on. I keep falling down. I feel like a broken record. Is there anyone who feels the same?

[waterknob1234]

Hi Suffocation, welcome to pc. I understand how you feel. Life is hard with depression. Someone once told me to take things one little piece at a time, one day at a time, one hour at a time. I think that helps some.

Don't bother with trying to be "perfect". It is too stressful and so highly overrated. I think depression tells you you have to be perfect all the time, and there is no such thing.

Take it slow, one thing at a time. Give yourself a loving pat on the back for everything you accomplish, big or little. Start with doing little things first and move up the ladder. And yes, you need to take care of yourself because your daughter needs you. She doesn't need you to be perfect, she just needs you. Mental illness is a struggle, but you shall overcome. God bless.

[Suffocation]

Thank you. I don't need to be perfect for her it's everyone else and especially one family member. I know don't worry what others think. I take one thing, one goal at a time but I feel so lazy. I am grateful you replied it's made me feel like someone cares.

[JohnCrow]

Let me be blunt: Your brain is telling you lies

Mental illness is a physical disability, not mental. It has mental effects, most certainly but that is a symptom of a larger whole.

Imagine you had a slipped cartilage in your knee. You walk, it moves and you suffer. Would you say "why am I not able to walk normally? I am walking correctly?" No, you would not. Doesn't make sense

Mental illness has a very long history of being treated as a personal failing, a weakness in the person, not an illness. Which it is

If bad events were the cause, there are people born into horrific poverty, growing up in refugee camps, hiding from murderous guerrillas in the night who would not have a genuinely cheerful disposition (not me, I know someone who lived that)

The dichotomy of mind and body as separate entities is not true. Depression is not an illness of the ghost in the machine, it is an illness of the brain, an organ, which has loads of additional effects