[JohnCrow]

I just got told I did not a job i was really hoping for but i dont feel a damn thing

i should be very upset but i dont feel a thing

[Skeezyks]

Feelings related to disappointment or loss can sometimes be delayed. Perhaps you may yet experience some feelings resulting from this particular disappointment. Under any circumstances, I offer my condolences...

[JohnCrow]

It kind of struck me a bit later, the usual feelings of rejection (they say you cannot take not getting the job personally... BS, I take it personally: You are saying I am not good enough for your company or you have a quota to fill and I don't fit it)

I think it would be great if a company would tell you why they decided not to hire you, or why they decided to hire someone else instead.

That way you'd know if there was something about your qualifications that they didn't like, or if you said something problematic in your interview, or if it just came down to choosing among several equally-qualified candidates, and they chose the one that played softball because they needed more people on the company team.

Instead, we're usually left not knowing, which in my mind generally translates to imagining the worst then having to work at talking myself out of that interpretation.

[JohnCrow]

Originally Posted by jo_thorne

I think it would be great if a company would tell you why they decided not to hire you, or why they decided to hire someone else instead.

That way you'd know if there was something about your qualifications that they didn't like, or if you said something problematic in your interview, or if it just came down to choosing among several equally-qualified candidates, and they chose the one that played softball because they needed more people on the company team.

Instead, we're usually left not knowing, which in my mind generally translates to imagining the worst then having to work at talking myself out of that interpretation.

I am quoting this because, well, Truth

[Alone & confused]

I'm sorry this job didn't work out for you! I am typically a pessimist by nature, always seeing the negative side of things. But lately I've been trying to work on that. When I face disappointments, I try real hard to believe that things didn't work out like I planned because there is something better waiting for me. Could this work for you? I really hope that there IS something better waiting in your future! Good luck.