[beachgirl152]

Last Thursday night I came home from work to my boyfriend of 2 years telling me he was done. We had a vacation planned that weekend and it was our 2 year anniversary. We lived together. We had our problems like any other couple, except that his family (mom and brother) never liked me. His mom never approved from the beginning because she always wanted her son to herself and was mad he started dating me as soon as he got back from being deployed. I moved in with my ex 1 year ago and his brother was living with him at the time but he never told his brother I would be moving in, so that caused a big problem and since then his brother said he was going to do whatever it takes to break us up. So for the last year his brother treated me terrible, saying horrible things about me to friends and family and my ex barely ever said anything because he didn't want the confrontation. Well besides that, we had a great relationship. Anytime we would have a disagreement he would always say things would be fine, not to worry and that he loves. EVERYDAY he would say he loved me and saw us getting married someday. He always said he was happy. Things were fine Thursday during the day but when I came home that night his mood totally changed and he said he couldn't be with me anymore. I never saw this coming because like I said he told me everyday how happy he was, he said he didn't see a future for us and there was no way we could work things out. I'm so lost and depressed ( I know a lot of people say it's just a boyfriend you will get over it) but I was so happy with him and thought he was going to marry me someday. I'm so heartbroken. We lived together too and he said I could stay as long as I need until i found a place but I just couldn't bear seeing him everyday so now I am at my moms. It's only been a few days but his whole family went through the house and packed up all my belongings, which is even more hurtful. Almost like they couldn't wait to get me out of his life. I'm just so sad and don't know what to do, everything has been turned upside down. I wake up with horrible anxiety, am depressed all day, haven't eaten in almost 6 days and I can't go to work or school. I don't know what to do. And please don't tell me to just get over it, because this isn't how depression works.

[vital]

Originally Posted by beachgirl152

Last Thursday night I came home from work to my boyfriend of 2 years telling me he was done. We had a vacation planned that weekend and it was our 2 year anniversary. We lived together. We had our problems like any other couple, except that his family (mom and brother) never liked me. His mom never approved from the beginning because she always wanted her son to herself and was mad he started dating me as soon as he got back from being deployed. I moved in with my ex 1 year ago and his brother was living with him at the time but he never told his brother I would be moving in, so that caused a big problem and since then his brother said he was going to do whatever it takes to break us up. So for the last year his brother treated me terrible, saying horrible things about me to friends and family and my ex barely ever said anything because he didn't want the confrontation. Well besides that, we had a great relationship. Anytime we would have a disagreement he would always say things would be fine, not to worry and that he loves. EVERYDAY he would say he loved me and saw us getting married someday. He always said he was happy. Things were fine Thursday during the day but when I came home that night his mood totally changed and he said he couldn't be with me anymore. I never saw this coming because like I said he told me everyday how happy he was, he said he didn't see a future for us and there was no way we could work things out. I'm so lost and depressed ( I know a lot of people say it's just a boyfriend you will get over it) but I was so happy with him and thought he was going to marry me someday. I'm so heartbroken. We lived together too and he said I could stay as long as I need until i found a place but I just couldn't bear seeing him everyday so now I am at my moms. It's only been a few days but his whole family went through the house and packed up all my belongings, which is even more hurtful. Almost like they couldn't wait to get me out of his life. I'm just so sad and don't know what to do, everything has been turned upside down. I wake up with horrible anxiety, am depressed all day, haven't eaten in almost 6 days and I can't go to work or school. I don't know what to do. And please don't tell me to just get over it, because this isn't how depression works.

Hi beachgirl,

You might try this. Ignore everything except what's in front of you right now. Ignore the future and the past. Live in your senses. Deeply see, hear, smell, touch and taste things. Move your body and feel it moving. In situations like this, what I say to myself is that my senses are on my side. My senses are trying to heal me.

- vital

[emijec]

I'm sorry this happened to you. my ex boyfriend broke up with me like that , said he liked me all that bs but he knew he didn't and lied all the way until he couldn't bear it, took me by surprise . you can send him an email or ask to talk and try to get the closure you need but unfortunately that's as far as its gonna go. they don't care that they just broke your heart, so you have to try really hard and just let it all out. don't lose your job, see if you can talk to someone about taking a leave, or vacation or if they can cover for you. schedule an appointment t with a therapist and get some medication, that's what I did (this is my 2nd round, yes it happened twice) you will need someone objective to help you through this. when you get your meds after a week or so see if anyone is willing to go with u on a weekend trip , get a chance in scenery away from the things that remind you of him. I threw everything away that reminded me of my ex, he hurt me y so I want to be reminded. take it and hour at a time. it's gonna go through your head a million times a million different ways and it's just something like withdrawal... it'll eventually dissipate. but do get help. I hope this helps. I'm going through it too. we can both do this!

[Fuzzybear]