[Lex3113]

This may sound silly, but I fell deeply in love with a character from a movie that doesn't even exist. I had a few too many glasses of wine while watching this movie and I thought maybe it was the wine that caused this effect. But the next morning I can't stop thinking of her, in fact I can't do anything to distract myself from the though of her... and the worse part is that she doesn't even exist which makes me angry, depressed and confused all at once. I waited months for this to go away but it wont.

I'm looking for any advice on what to do about this.

I googled the question but it delt mainly with teens, I am a 24 year old adult and so far nothing I've tried can help with these thoughts. Drinking only makes me more depressed because it only makes me wish I was in the same world as that character so badly that it is driving me insane.

I tried talking to my friend of 19 years but he doesn't understand as much as he tried too. I have a girlfriend and I love her very much but this fictional character has an emotional hold on me and I don't know what to do.

[OneInBillions]

Hey Lex3113, welcome to PsychCentral.

As far as falling in love with a fictional character goes... It's not all that uncommon and I don't think it's an issue unless it interferes with real relationships. Many movies, books and games are specifically structured to make us identify with and feel emotionally for the characters; why would love be any different? It just means that the character shows traits or qualities that are attractive to you.

At the risk of exposing myself as one, I have to ask, are you at all familiar with otaku culture? Love for fictional characters is fairly common there; it gave rise to the "waifu" meme, where one refers to their favorite female manga or anime character as their "waifu." While it's a silly joke to some, there are plenty of people who have fallen in love with certain characters. I talk from experience; I'm in love with a fictional character, too! Sure it's really embarrassing and not something you'd want to share with acquaintances, but it can also be really comforting sometimes.

And yes, some people have gone completely over the edge. Unless you dump your real girlfriend and start having "romantic" dinners with images of your fictional love, I think you'll be alright!

hmmmm... one thing for sure... she's guaranteed to break your heart
I can sympathize though. I fell in love with every character Brittany Murphy played

[*Laurie*]

Reminds me of the Neil Young song "A Man Needs A Maid":
A while ago somewhere
I don't know when
I was watching
a movie with a friend.
I fell in love with the actress.
She was playing a part
that I could understand.

[Tauren]

Pretty sure this is why fan fiction was invented.

Don't worry, you'll get over it eventually.