[kray_bray_may]

Hi folks, hoping to receive some feedback with respect to loneliness.
I regularly grow lonely, but I cannot summon the motivation to reach out to my friends. When I do reach out, I feel apathy when talking with friends in that it seems pointless talking with anyone about anything. Despite feeling lonely and isolated and even really isolated most of the time, I'm irritable toward people.

[lavendersage]

Originally Posted by kray_bray_may

Hi folks, hoping to receive some feedback with respect to loneliness.
I regularly grow lonely, but I cannot summon the motivation to reach out to my friends. When I do reach out, I feel apathy when talking with friends in that it seems pointless talking with anyone about anything. Despite feeling lonely and isolated and even really isolated most of the time, I'm irritable toward people.

I know EXACTLY how you feel....sadly I don't have any advice. I hope others come along with some - I could use it, too!

[kray_bray_may]

Originally Posted by lavendersage

I know EXACTLY how you feel....sadly I don't have any advice. I hope others come along with some - I could use it, too!

It's quite a contradiction. How do you deal with it?

[lavendersage]

Unfortunately, not well. I tend to self-isolate and as my despair and depression and apathy gain ground, my self-isolation grows. I go to work, putting on my "happy" face, I run necessary errands....but all the while I'm dead inside and wondering why I'm even bothering.

I don't think my meds are doing a good job on my depression. In fact, I think they're doing zero for it. And, terrifies me to say, I wonder whether there's a med that could do anything to make it abate.

[kray_bray_may]

Originally Posted by lavendersage

Unfortunately, not well. I tend to self-isolate and as my despair and depression and apathy gain ground, my self-isolation grows.

Yeah I do that too. It's crap

[EnglishDave]

Originally Posted by kray_bray_may

Hi folks, hoping to receive some feedback with respect to loneliness.
I regularly grow lonely, but I cannot summon the motivation to reach out to my friends. When I do reach out, I feel apathy when talking with friends in that it seems pointless talking with anyone about anything. Despite feeling lonely and isolated and even really isolated most of the time, I'm irritable toward people.

These are all symptoms of Depression, unfortunately that behaviour feeds the Depression, making it worse and sending us down into a darkening spiral. Friends, in general, are less than useless in this situation unless they understand Depression and have the patience of the Saints. Unless you can keep the conversation light, do not reach out to friends over this issue, you will lose them.

Your best course of action, while you regain the strength and mental fortitude to face the World and interact with people, is to talk with your Therapist and have your meds changed or adjusted. Take steps to curb your irritation and slowly work your way back into socialising. Whatever you do, please do not let this situation rumble on, it is likely to deteriorate, not resolve.

Dave.

KBM, it sounds to me like a touch of depression, probably clinical depression. Ask your primary care physician what it is and how they may help you. That would be a start. Then i would go from there and work on a support group just for you. Find others who suffer like you do. Have it so you can call each other and check on one another, to help motivate each other. Go out for coffee. People like yourself you can hang together without saying anything and then you have a group that understands and is there for you. It is very healing. Blessings.

[Fuzzybear]