What must I do?

I have been struggling with my depression now more than ever. I just broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years. She told me she needs to be away from me so she can "cheer up her heart". So my depression was bringing her down with me. I guess I'm a "draining" type of person.

This is all I want: I want to be in a normal healthy relationship with a girl (or more than 1 girl would be nice but I'm sure the chances of that are slim to none) and just to be happy and to be able to do normal people stuff. This is kinda getting into the sexual part of the forum but I posted in depression because that's what it has the most to do with. For example, my girlfriend before was bisexual, but she said she didn't want us to have a girlfriend because she didn't want to share me. Ideally I want a bi girl who wants to have another girlfriend between us. Is that too much to ask? Is it too much to ask to want to have a nice sex life? I feel like it is most times. Especially when everyone is telling me I can't make anyone else happy until I am happy myself. And I can't love anyone else until I truly love myself. Which I totally get it, but I don't know how to love myself. I really need help. So please, someone help me. How can I love myself so that I can start loving someone else again?

Sadley, so so sorry you are suffering with depression. It is like a black cloud that makes every day a struggle according to my friend. I am sorry also your girlfriend could not cope with your depression, and possibly her own, or be there for you as a support person.

There are really two issues, treating depression and finding a lifestyle that suits you. Treating depression to me is a higher priority. It involves options like med therapy, talk therapy, other therapies, support groups, and online support like Psych Central.

I would advocate treating depression first because it affects all the other spheres of your life.