Dealing with family

I just want to vent a little and maybe find someone else who understands the way I feel..
I feel so hurt and low all the time about my immediate family. I'm so tired of them putting me down and making me feel bad!
I have 2 younger sisters. I was apparently the outcome of a rape situation, so am the step kid.
All throughout my teen years I felt unfairly treated but put it down to hormones. As I'v grown older, I see distinct ways my parents completely treat me like crap compared to my siblings.
They have paid for both of my sisters college courses, I never received any help from them and still struggling to get a loan for going to school. They have never charged my sisters a penny to live with them if they get stuck, but the one time I discussed if I could stay with them while I got back on my feet after a work lay off, they wanted to charge me over a thousand!

My younger sister is in the process of buying a house and they constantly bring it up to my that I should have already bought a house etc and to be more like her. I just feel we haven't received the same help in life and that if she hadn't have had 2 college courses paid for and earning twice as much as me and paying as much rent as I was then maybe I could be in that place too?

Ugh. It may seem petty of me to feel this way, but it makes me feel like absolute crap. They make fun of me for my anxiety and panic attacks and call me a 'baby' ..

Sometimes I want to cut myself off from them.. I have never confronted them about the way I feel. Is it worth that I do the next time something like this comes up again?
Does anyone else deal with anything like this?

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Several things you've said are definitely relate-able.

I feel so hurt and low all the time about my immediate family. I'm so tired of them putting me down and making me feel bad!
They have paid for both of my sisters college courses, I never received any help from them

I've always wanted to cut ties with my family but wasn't strong enough to do so. If they are having a major negative impact on your life than you should try to learn to set borders with them physically and emotionally.

((((((Hugs))))))

I haven't had any contact with my parents since the day after Xmas. I haven't decided if and when I will see them again. Both of them have severe mental illness, untreated. Both have been abusive and neglectful. They don't know I was inpatient psych in early December. They have been so insanely controlling for all my life I just won't tell them.
I used to want to confront them. I finally realized my mother is completely incapable of understanding what she did. Her illness is so severe. I talked it over with my therapist. It came to the point where she asked me what realistically would I get out of it. They weren't going to admit, understand, or apologize. I thought it through and realized there was no upside for me personally. I abandoned the idea.
Totally cutting off parents is very difficult. Many times since that day I have felt terrible guilt and loneliness without them. I went to an al anon meeting and lost it afterward, because I missed my daddy, the alcoholic in the family.
However as an adult, you have every right to control access to your life, time, and emotions. It really is entirely your decision.
I feel very lucky because my formerly estranged sister and I have been reconciled. We have been growing closer for the past few years. But I knew things had changed when I was hypomanic in her kitchen sobbing about our parents. She hugged me very tight and her voice shook when she said to forget them. That we were what was left. That she, her husband, their child, and I were the family now. It was amazing and scary to realize I had a family member who actually loved me.

Thanks so much for the replies and so so sorry that you have issues with your families too.
It seems like it's easy to forget a friend or an enemy when they hurt you, but your family is something else..

One of my siblings seems to see what I'm talking about but the other gets extremely defensive and rude towards me if anything like that gets brought up.

The thing that sucks is that I make a huge effort with my family, I always have and much more than either of my other siblings.. I don't know why I keep making the effort.. Maybe to gain some approval?

My parents have also never been supportive with my mental health issues. I tried to commit suicide when I was a teenager and my father found me and took me to a hospital. They spent the next couple of years ridiculing me about that too.

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