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I have a friend I use for support. She understands alot of what I'm going through, because she is also suicidal. I lean on her when I'm really low and she leans on me. I try to be a good friend and be there for her, but the problem is she tends to make me more depressed and suicidal when she leans on me for support. I don't know what to do. She is a good friend and needs someone to reach out to during the low points. I can't just cut her out of my life.
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I know what your going through me and my best friend also were like this but life has a way of changing people my friend got a boyfriend and she's become more positive but now it seems like I'm more negative and she's more positive when it comes to suicide talks I miss the old her not that I want her to be suicidal but on my side sometimes so if it makes you uncomfortable you could tell her or just drag the conversation to some other topic
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but by doing that I am no longer being her support. Kind of a **** move to not be there for her when she us there for me....
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Sometimes people who are depressed need to be dragged out of there depression by talking about something else
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While its good to let her vent and confide in you, allowing her to wallow there does neither of you any good.
So yes, after she has said what she needs to say, attempt to change the topic toward a lighter direction, even coping mechanisms and stratrgizing is a better topic than throwing a two man pity party. Its not a prick move, its helpful.
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