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Old May 12, 2016, 12:11 PM
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I find myself lying to my wife more and more. I tell her I feel "ok" when in reality I feel like ****. I tell her I exercised when I haven't. I don't want to sadden her any more than she already is. I'm enough of a burden as it is...

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Old May 12, 2016, 01:07 PM
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Hello DayAtATime1: The Skeezyks does this too. If my wife asks if I'm okay I say: "I'm fine." or: "I'm just tired." There's just no point in getting into it...
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Old May 12, 2016, 01:11 PM
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same here...but i am afraid that she will be critical
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Old May 12, 2016, 01:48 PM
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My fiancée always asks me how I'm feeling. When I say "Fine", he doesn't believe me. He'll keep digging and I tell him "What do you want me to say?" It won't change anything.

I find it draining to always pretend I'm fine in front of my family, my friends, my job.
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Old May 12, 2016, 01:53 PM
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Not a problem for me because my wife never asks how I'm feeling. I think she doesn't want to know.
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Old May 12, 2016, 02:02 PM
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Not a problem for me because my wife never asks how I'm feeling. I think she doesn't want to know.
I don't know anything about your situation, but just from what I know in my experience, the people around us may just not know what to do. I know my husband cares and has tried many things to help me out of the goodness of his heart, but I think he has come to the realization that I need more help and support than he can give me and he needs to take care of his emotional needs to.
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