[nomdeplume83]

My husband of 10 years apparently has been telling his family about my depression and what I go through, even though I specifically asked him not to. This illness isn't new in our relationship.
I've had it since my teens and he was aware of it when we got married, although I wasn't being treated for it. The last few years, my depression has taken on a different form. Instead of getting angry, I shut down and hide out until it passes. It's tough, I get it and I understand his need to talk about it. But to tell his family, with whom I already have a tough relationship, is the ultimate betrayal. For one, these people know who I am and I don't want them knowing such personal things about me (my own family doesn't even know). Also, they can't be objective about it. He's talked about seeing a therapist to get some help with this for years and he hasn't done anything about it. If he needed an outlet, he could've gone to a therapist or got on a message board or support group or something. Anything but talk to his family about it. I asked him the other day if he's told his family about this and he said he hasn't. I asked him if he was being honest with me and he said he was. Come to find out he lied to me and blamed it on me because of how I "become." Now I don't know if I can trust him. The last thing I need right now is to have my best friend, the person closest to me in the world, lie to me. I can shrug off so many things because we're all human, but this is unforgivable in my opinion.

[DayAtATime1]

Anichka - Although your husband lied to you, I think it was innocent. He did not want to upset you by telling you the truth. I've been suffering with depression for most of my life and recently find myself lying to my wife. e.g. I tell her I'm feeling OK when in fact I feel like ***t. I only lie to her because I don't want to upset her. She already has enough to deal with in handling my depression... Your husband sounds like a caring person - go easy on him.

[Fuzzybear]

[Fizzyo]