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May 27, 2016, 09:21 AM
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Disrespect
 Do you growl and bite back or walk away for ever? Or?
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May 27, 2016, 09:28 AM
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Sometimes, i walk away because the person that disrespects me often does not understand what respect is. If I bite back, he will continue attacking me and there will be war. At the end I have to stop biting back because he rarely stops attacking.
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May 27, 2016, 01:25 PM
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The Skeezyks keeps his distance from everyone. That way there's no disrespect.
 Well... there are the drivers who try to run me down in the crosswalks when I'm trying to cross the street. I flip them the American eagle... 
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May 27, 2016, 01:34 PM
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It's not in me to bite back with people I don't know. Those I know...I do.
I don't like either choice, really. |
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May 27, 2016, 09:58 PM
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I guess it depends on who is doing the disrespecting. Sometimes you have to pick your battles.
If the disrespect is infused in the relationship, and you can't talk it out, you may want to walk away or at least distance yourself, if that's an option. If this is about something someone did or said, but they are normally respectful, there is this standard psych response to situations like this that's been around for ages. If someone says something that upsets you, you respond: "When you say-or do-thus-and-such, it makes me feel disrespected/hurt/angry/etc..(Pick and emotion)" It's a statement that keeps you responsible for your reaction, but lets them know how you feel. If the person didn't mean to hurt you, it gives them a chance to make amends. But if the person is a jerk, they probably won't care. --Ceara1010
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May 27, 2016, 10:27 PM
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Good question...I am struggling with this one at this very moment. I work in a small department and one person there disrespects me although I'm not sure she realizes it. I bit/growled back once and she apologized but apparently she can't help herself and the behavior continues. Frankly people have disrespected me in one way or another for most of my life so I don't really blame her since she's not the first and won't be the last, but the situation is unique because I can't walk away. I react by replacing genuine banter with polite but terse work talk but it makes me feel like a pill since our group is an otherwise jovial bunch.
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