[shamon86]

Earlier today I was having a conversation with a friend that somehow led me to start talking with her about how depressed I've been lately. It was very much a one sided conversation, she didn't have much to say on the subject and I kept wondering why? After thinking about the more I realized she probably didn't know what to say. We all know the things NOT to say to people who are depressed but what about the other side of that? What do you way to people who do feel that way? What's been the best response you've ever received from a friend?

[BrazenApogee]

I haven't had any good responses. Feel like I should stop trying to talk.

[MtnTime2896]

I always just listened, a lot. When the person would pause for me to speak, and they always did at some point, I would. I'd say something similar every time. "I've been there and I know it gets better but right now it sucks. It really sucks. No one can feel exactly what you're feeling but you and the best advice is usually your own. If you need me, I'll always be here. Even if its just to listen, I'm here. Even if we just sit in silence, I'll be with you. You might feel entirely alone but don't you ever forget that you have me by your side, hell or high water, I'm there. I love you."
I don't how much it ever helped but it's what I felt so I said as much. Honesty was the best way to go for me.

[YorkieMom]

I would just listen, but being on the other side of that - I appreciate when my husband lets me vent and get things out . . . . and honestly, I rather just have someone listen then tell me something I probably don't want to hear at the time anyway . . . . .