[Jayhawker1975]

Feeling confused. Dr. told I could only drive as far as a friends house after my sx. My best friend has been really good at helping me out. Told me last night she wanted me to drive more after her bday which is 9/1. I think I should get the OK from my Dr visit in 2 weeks. Tonite she took me to friends house and then home later but she did not want to do it. From indications it appeared she really does not want to help anymore. Have a dr visit that is further than I'm suppose to drive. Said she would take me but sent her text saying I did not feel she wanted to do I could drive my self after she text she would be over here. I know I should not drive my self but don't want her doing it because I don't want to bother her. What do I do? Friendship is around 30 yrs and on shaky ground now.

Express your sincere gratitude to her.

Perhaps you can start finding some alternatives (Uber, public transit, other?) so she is not your primary go-to friend as much. Have your other friends come visit you instead of her driving you to see them. She may have a lot of demands on her time and is struggling to balance things even though she has a genuine desire to be of assistance to you. Just offering some thoughts.

[Jayhawker1975]

Hi Onward, thank you for your reply. I wish I had more friends who were available, but most work during the day or live too far. I just don't have money for public transportation. I'm hoping if I do drive myself then maybe next time she will take me. I would rather be more independent but that time will come. I think I'm too impatient. I want to go get PT job just to have some money.

[Fizzyo]

Hi Onward,

It sounds like your friend has a very young baby so she will be exhausted in her own right. Her reluctance may be that she feels life is too demanding to her (rather than you).

I agree finding alternative transportation (money permitting) is a good idea, maybe drive to the public transport then use that to get to the appointment, (which could cost less) or alternatively, allow time to drive the journey in stages with a time of rest between so you're not driving too far in one go.

Remember your insurance may not be valid if you go against doctors advice.

My ability to drive is limited and on the best day I can manage 10 to 15 minutes. I had to go and collect a friend for an appointment today and my driving limit was 10 minutes, the distance to her flat, (quite good for me), and I made sure I had a rest and a drink at her place before trying the second leg from hers to the doctor.

Best wishes, I hope something in this thread is helpful.