[Humpty Dumpty]

Why is it that if someone has cancer and they aren't having a good day people "understand", but when you have depression & you aren't having a good day "that's no excuse" "Stop being so dramatic"? It's reasons like that I don't tell people I have depression. I don't want to be labeled as an attention seeker or just being thought of as being dramatic. After all just because I'm sad doesn't mean I can't do my job right? (sarcasm)
If anyone has cancer I truly feel sorry for them. I'm not saying they aren't suffering, because obviously they are. My depression can be just as debilitating as cancer, but I'm expected to get over it.

[feeshee]

My depression feels like a cancer to my soul.

[Fizzyo]

I agree, depression is an invisible illness so people forget you have it. They also trivialise it because they think they know what being sad is like and they think sadness is depression.

I agree it's wise to be careful who you share with. I was lucky when I was able to work, I had the same job for some time and once I had gained some respect I "came out" and people learned that depression doesn't make you grow an extra head!

Best wishes

[Akadownindetroit]

I think many people with cancer realize that life is precious and they have an intense desire to live, if only for a little longer. With depression, even the thought of another day can be a burden too heavy to bear.

[dexter]

Some people get it. Most don't. Some are open minded if you try to explain it to them. Many aren't.

I've been trying to open up to friends and acquaintances about this. I've been getting some great responses and support. But I've been very selective about who I tell. I've been taking the opportunity with people who know I haven't been well but don't know what's wrong. If they ask how I am I think for a second and if they seem open I tell them the truth.

I only do this when I'm feeling well, for two reasons

a) so that the "truth" isn't too heavy and I'm clear headed with a response, I don't want to make them regret they asked

b) so that if the response isn't good I am strong enough not to be crushed.

BUT when I AM ABLE I think it is important to do because it is the only way we are going to get past the misunderstanding and stigma.