[samj40]

So I've had a rough few days with a deep depression that won't lift no matter what I do. I've been staying on my meds and sleeping well, I've been way more active than usual, eating food I usually enjoy and even doing some retail therapy and going to the movies.

Not a single thing has helped and I've been having some pretty scary thoughts. I don't really have anyone to talk to because they just ignore me when I'm depressed, honestly. I confided in my mother that I wanted to go to the psych ward and all she said was "what do you want them to do?".

My pDoc asks it a lot, too. "What do you want me/them to do?"

That's like asking me how to treat my own broken bone. Does anyone else get this question? How do you answer it? I'm honestly stuck, I need help but I'm expected to tell them exactly how to help me when I can barely keep it together?

[MickeyCheeky]

My mom says this to me too..

If I knew how to help myself, I'd just do it. That's the reason I'm seeing a therapist..

Hi there,

I recently got out of the psych hospital, where I voluntarily went because I wanted the help. My answer to that question was that I wanted a safe space where I couldn't harm myself, while trying a new medication. Is a safe place perhaps something you're looking for as well?

[Fizzyo]

I get that question a lot.
Sometimes I just say I want a magic wand but I know they don't exist.

Hang on in there and I hope you find it helpful to talk here.

[starryprince]

Hey there! I voluntarily went to the psych ward about 2 weeks ago. I didn't stay overnight because I wasn't a danger to myself and they let me go, but they were confused as to why I was there. When I went to therapy, my therapist asked the same thing: "What did you want them to do?" That question made me angry. I wanted help, as I feel like I'm not getting it from my psychiatrist. I can't elaborate on my answer but I really just wanted help. It's a very difficult question to answer, so I understand how you feel. Good luck!!

[dexter]

"I want them to do their job and help me"

"Figure out if my meds are working or if they need to be altered. Teach me new life skills/coping skills. Adjust my meds if necessary. Keep me safe while I am finding a new way to be stable."

I can imagine your mother not understanding this but I don't know why your pdoc would ask unless he is taking it personally. It doesn't mean the pdoc can't help you but you may benefit from something more intensive than he/she can provide right now. And there is benefit from having help around the clock if you are in crisis and in danger while they get you stable again.