[gonegirl99]

I feel so ****ing old to be complaining about still living with my so called mother who hasn't changed since my childhood, but I am afraid to go to a shelter even though I need to escape the *****. The outside world really doesn't have any sympathy for adults like me. Today I was trying to meditate, I stayed home from work and suddenly the ***** comes home and interrupts my meditation in order to get rent money from me. (I am the only adult child who must pay rent, the favored adult sibling does not have to pay.)

I thought my adult life would be simple. I thought by now at 24 years old I'd make enough to get a nice one bedroom apartment and create my own life. I don't even want to create this thread because I'm sick of having the same issues continue into 2017. I just want to stay silent about my problems because it's too ****ing much to bear.

But I want to know if there has ever been someone in that unfortunate situation where u have to live with the same parent who was responsible for your depression? My so-called mother owns the house but technically works and lives in another state and comes every other weekend.

[gonegirl99]

I hate both of my parents so ****ing much. The reason why some of us are so ****ed up as adults is because of the ****** set of parents we were handed at birth. My mother also just called me an asshole under her breath too. I wish I had another mother

How much do you pay for rent? I remember someone posted before that they had to pay $100 a month while their sibling paid nothing. If you are that person, please stop focusing on the fact that you have to pay while your siblings don't, and instead be grateful that you only have to pay $100 a month. $100 is an absolute bargain. (If you're not that person, disregard that :P)

How are you working towards reaching independence? Are you putting money away towards first and last month's rent for an apartment of your own? I hope so. If you're actively saving up money, just be patient and know that you'll reach your savings goal eventually. If you're on disability, you might be able to get financial help. I received $750 from disability in order to contribute towards the cost of first and last month's rent. It definitely helped!

[Azureseas]

Originally Posted by gonegirl99

I hate both of my parents so ****ing much. The reason why some of us are so ****ed up as adults is because of the ****** set of parents we were handed at birth. My mother also just called me an asshole under her breath too. I wish I had another mother

I am sorry you are struggling -- AND I have to say I agree with the other reply you've had. IF you are being asked to pay 100. a month for rent, I'd consider yourself blessed!
Your mother may not be the kindest--or the easiest to live with but she did (apparently?) give birth to you so that makes her your mother. And if she is allowing her adult children to live in the home that she owns/pays the mortgage and repairs/upkeep on, I think she is at least trying to be helpful. Granted, calling you or anyone names isn't okay nor is it an effective problem solving technique. Do you three ever sit down together and discuss what is working, not working, length of stay, chores etc? If not, I think doing that --and holding up your end of the deal (since the only person you are responsible for is you!) would perhaps be helpful to all.
In the meantime, if it isn't working for you and you have such animosity towards her, you are probably going to feel better only when you take the steps necessary to move. It's not easy but often it's doable! I was several years younger than you when I moved out. It was a small 2 room and bath furnished apartment. I was working part time initially (I soon added a full time day job as well in order to survive) and I had to apply for food stamps and walk several miles to work each day because I only made 62.00 a week back then and my rent was 50. a week. It was by no means easy but it was definitely worth it!
Wishing you the best!

Originally Posted by gonegirl99

I hate both of my parents so ****ing much. The reason why some of us are so ****ed up as adults is because of the ****** set of parents we were handed at birth. My mother also just called me an asshole under her breath too. I wish I had another mother

(((((((hugs))))))

Things will happen for you.

They may not be happening in as timely a manner as you would like them, but they will.

I suggest you get out and volunteer at a homeless shelter or somewhere like that. It will help you focus on the good in your life and that's some really important depression therapy.