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Old Dec 23, 2016, 08:57 AM
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So, as the saga continues..... I have been finagled ( meaning , guilted, pressured and maneuvered) into having a christmas eve get together with my aging, morbidly obese, and crippled parents.... I'm not trying to be cruel about them, it's just how it is.
I just found out that my older daughter,who lives across the road from me, has no intention of coming or bringing my grandkids. we are having Christmas at her house on Sunday, but my dad doesn't think he can get in there so he won't go.
I'm still worried how the day will go with my youngest child and their spouse because of the transition and the issues that brings. their spouse recently pushed my husband into saying that he felt their marriage should be invalid because of everything. I know my husband loves them, but he is a simple, guy with simple views.
I am so sick of labels. We are all people, we are all familly... can't we just play nice and show love!
I'm so tired and overwhelmed with the feeling that I'm failing everybody. The fears that my family is just going to implode. I'm so afraid....
I'm sorry for whining to you all once again.... but if i keep all of this in, I don't know what I'll do!
take care, my friends and be safe this holiday season. blessings. guiltier
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Old Dec 23, 2016, 10:02 AM
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You're a wonderful, kind person. Don't feel guilty about yourself. I hope life will improve for you at some point.. in the meantime ,please feel free to come back here anytime you want
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Old Dec 23, 2016, 10:17 AM
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We are all people, we are all family... can't we just play nice and show love!
I'm so tired and overwhelmed with the feeling that I'm failing everybody. The fears that my family is just going to implode...
You are not failing unless you are thinking you can somehow get everyone else to think and to act as clearly as you, and your family will actually just die off one-at-a-time rather than imploding. Give your parents the best you can give them on their evening even while grieving with them, if necessary, and then enjoy your grandchildren on their day.
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Old Dec 23, 2016, 10:49 AM
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I know how you feel. I wish my family could come together and love each other, but that's not gonna happen.

You have nothing to feel guilty about, please don't torture yourself. You are a good person and you don't deserve it.
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Old Dec 23, 2016, 06:22 PM
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I'm so sick of labels too
You're a kind and wonderful person, I'm here to listen (but have no advice )
( my "family" (of origin) .... )
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