Well she finally said it…

She said she hates living with me. She hates me and everything about me. Im better off dead. Because at least i know it will make her happy.

I don't what to say except that I'm sorry she said that you

I'm sorry she feels that way. But that doesn't mean that you would be better off dead. There is a future and you can find someone else to share it with. Life has it's twists and turns and we have to adjust. You will have to mourn the loss but will come out stronger in the long run.

What a horrible thing to say! There is no excuse for anyone to use cruel words like that. I don't know you very well but I believe you're a wonderful person and I know that you deserve happiness... things will improve, please hang on

Whoever said this to you deserves a kick and some nasty words back

Well she's my mom so i cant do that

Oh no I'm so sorry
My mother said how she was "fed up to the back teeth" with me

Maybe she does love you but is unwell and can't express it

Hi DaX

OK, that says to me that she was/is hateful, it doesn't say anything about you!!
And why should anyone who is hateful get the right to determine your future?!?!?
You deserve way more than what she is putting on you, so don't give her that power, hey?!
And ultimately........even if it proved that she does hate you, instead of maybe taking out her problems on you, even though she hasn't really made the effort to get to really/truly know you.........so what??!! You and we know that you are a good person!!

And although it has to be real hard for you to live with her, this is not going to be forever, right?!! And you have us to see your real value, as you will in time have others to see that too. You deserve much more, just give yourself the chance to hang in there for it hey??
You do deserve that!! You can do it, and we're here for you

Alison

Oh wow. Thank you

My dad's said something similar before. It hurts, it hurts bad when you hear it from a parent; you know the ****er that gave you life. I'm sorry she's too much of a sadistic bastard to realize how kind and comforting her kid is. How her kid helped this kid (that's right, me) more than once when I've been low. She can't see that, fine. She doesn't deserve to. **** her. She's a god damn birth giver, not a mother if that's how she treats you. "Mother" is earned, not applied by right. It's a privilege she shouldn't have.

She does sound like a hateful, horrible woman. . You're so kind and gentle
Nobody deserves such a cruel person as a parent
She does sound sadistic too
(I can relate to some of what you wrote - I don't think my mother said she hated me but... I won't go into that.. )

We can see your true value

Aww thank you guys!

And to be fair sometimes i feel like she really isnt my mother because we arent at all related by blood...

You are not better off being dead. You being dead will not make her happy. She'll feel a lot of emotions but happy isn't one of them. More likely she's sick of the life she's living. That's on her, not you. I wish you the best.

You deserve to live; there's no point in throwing away your life just for her. Do you want to do that just for her? Instead, I'm sure you can get out of this situation and have a wonderful life away from her

Nobody can hurt us like family can hurt us. That doesn't make anything she said true. She sounds like a horrible person who is raging about her own life and takes it out on you. The truth of you is not in what she says but in what you believe. Please don't take her hateful lies and make them a part of you. Sometimes our REAL families are the ones we choose, not the ones we're born into.
Sending you virtual hugs

Yeah my wife says that kind of blather to and about our youngest daughter, which is why most of my posts go in the "separation and divorce" forum. I think it's when they get frustrated by attemting to deal with a real live thinking breathing feeling person. Maybe goldfish would make a better roommate for them?