Lack of empathy towards self?

Anyone else?

Yep. I seem to be able to empathize with others but not myself. Go figure.

I believe I lack empathy toward myself, but my self-anger (self-hatred?) is buried fairly deep and is covered by a whole lot of general apathy, apathy abetted by meds.

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It's self hatred for me to , like a strong violent hatered like someone inside me want to kill me ... But yeah, if someone talks to me about its problems I would probably do everything to help him and I have empathy for absolutely every living things.

Definitely, but I'm more apathetic towards my life in general.

Yep. Lack of empathy, apathetic, all of the above.

I've been told by therapists that I'm very hard on myself and demand a lot from myself, but it's hard for me to see it. I feel sympathy for others who are struggling, but only see myself as tragic, a failure..

I will carry the weight of the world and the ills of others upon my own shoulders but looking after my own self is never a priority.

Apathy I have for myself is actually a relief, sometimes. I don't remember the last time I felt anything other than apathy or just plain hatred towards myself

One of my new goals is being nicer & kinder to myself. I'm trying to apply the patience & understanding I have for everyone else to myself. Beaver dam it's hard though.

I have been told for years that I am too hard on myself. My response is always "What!? No no, I'm not hard enough on myself." I can say this with a straight face and don't even think about it.

I feel nothing for myself except personal guilt. I guess that's why I try to help others so much no matter the personal cost....atonement. I am beginning to believe my solitude is punishment.

How sad is it that we would cut others so much slack, say encouraging things to them, do them little kindnesses to help them feel better, and we won't do any of those things for ourselves. Why do we always assume we don't deserve it? Why is it I can remember every damn thing I've ever done wrong in excruciating detail but I struggle to remember anything I can be proud of?

I'm the same way MommaD. I've treated people with kindness only to be crapped on. I always think it's my fault.

Reading this thread is like watching my inner monologue appear on a computer screen!!

I was thinking the same thing.

I was thinking about creating a topic like this today, I'm glad I found your thread. I'm definitely hard on myself. I place high standards on myself and when I don't stay within those standards I beat myself up. I can't even forgive myself for past mistakes. When it comes to others I'm apathetic. I remember encouraging a depressed a friend but I couldn't even take my own advice. I don't understand why this happens.

A therapist once told me to be kind to myself. So hard to do.

Can only find empathy towards others for some reason