Mothers who

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Mothers... Fathers... Parental Units... [Insert your chosen descriptor here.]

For better or worse, our stories cannot be told without them.

((((((( Fuzzybear! )))))))

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Thanks Rohag

Mothers who .... gave up on mothering

It hurts being in this world

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Hi Fuzzy,
Mothering is so important but many of us have had unhappy childhoods. My mom would be often angry. She would not kiss you or give you a hug. She would criticize you very much. To me it was very disturbing to watch how other kids I knew were loved physically by their mothers. It was like a experience from other planet. I wondered : what I did wrong? Why doesn't she love me? I am not laying when I say that she would kiss you twice a year: Christmas and your birthday, isn't that crazy? She would never ever congratulate you, or show she was pleased about you.
Also, among the 3 children she had, the one she loved the less was my brother. So, you can see where he comes from. I thought my sister was her favorite child but my sister clarified for me that point: my mom did not have preference between my sister and me.
In turn, my mother had been a victim of abandonment and poverty herself when she was a child.
We got close with my mom when I grew up, finally. But she never got close to my sister or my brother either, I don't know why. However, after my sister died my mother became too sad and that sadness killed her. I could not do much for her at that moment. I mean, as much as I wanted. I regret.
I think we got closer as I moved to another country. She would come to visit twice a year and was a different person there. Who knows what kind of mechanism moved her to change like that.
Anyway, I have many scars from her incapacity like many here are suffering from poor parenting.
Sending you a hug, Fuzzy

I was 50 plus years old before a T told me about being emotionally deprived as a child .... answers a lot of questions ...

if I had the knowledge then I could have prevented a lot of wasted years ... tackle it now ... don't let it take another day from you ... Tigger .

Mothers who ..........

adopted you then wished... they never had.

You know fuzzy I have every National Geographic from issue 1 thru the end of 2011 on hard drive and you have more bear pictures than I do .
Fortunately my adoptive mother was transformative in my life ,but many people do have to suffer with toxic parents ,my birth Father was one of those pieces of work ,but by the same token if he had not of been a special kind of cruel a $$ I never would have met my adoptive mom , so do I curse the abuse or praise the break I got ? I am not about to say thank you for shooting me dad ,but I will thank god for the gift of the woman who fostered me and adopted me and made me a decent human being. Everything is a trade off , a balancing act , so what was the counter weight that kept you safe when your mom let you down ?

what suffering mothers can cause....
I still cant figure out my mother....
I think it was good and bad....
I cant remember much about her...
and here I am at 85 y.o......
I have a lot of guilt and shame...
I cant say I loved her...