[eyesclosed]

I have been in the most serous depression and anxiety of my life and my family members are pushing me to do more it's stress I don't need.

[Skeezyks]

[Fuzzybear]

[Clara22]

They just don't get it. In my experience, if you have not had a serious depression, you will never understand what depression means. I had a friend that had had a mild depression herself and used to give me all kind of unsolicited and frankly stupid advice to me. I just had to end that friendship. It hurted me, really. She put me in the place of the "one that wants to die and does not allow anyone approaching her" and to her I was somebody that "was inflicting terrible pain to her and others, as I was not approachable". I was under a deep depression, for God's sake!!! How can somebody expect I would be appreciative of her efforts, particularly when she tried to enter my house by force? I did not expell or insult her, I just asked her not to call me anymore. She was producing me incontrolable anxiety, perspiration and palpitations. I knew it was not her fault but I just could not handle her.
Also, family members did not know how to deal with me. They did wrong things, either they neglected me or they "helped" me in a wrong way by pushing me too hard. In fact, they did it in the opposite order: they pushed me hard, as I did not follow their "advice", they then neglected me. It is natural, because they do not know what to do. However, the best attitude for a family member that is really concerned about a person with a mental health issue is to look for professional advice, regardless if this person with mental health issues wants to visit a professional herself.

I just had one friend that did the right thing: she often came to visit me. She would not pay attention to my lack of hygiene or the status of my home. She would just spend time with me. She would bring photos of her trips around the world and tell me stories of those trips because I enjoyed them. And that was all. That and my pets saved my life. And not people telling me I should brush my hair or go to the doctor.

But this is hard to understand.

I send you a big hug

[eyesclosed]

It's really harmful in that it has made my symptoms worse. Weekend before last my sister came to my moms who I live next door too. I invited her to my T appt because I was realizing my family was talking about me without me present a lot. She has B/A from UW. This is her personality she imeidetly took control of the meeting even typing the whole thing while interrogate me. The next day I asked her to come over. She got me angry and I told her to leave. She called the police. During the week she called my T and said my family wants me committed too a mental hospital. This weekend my brother shows up. My T called and we met sunday. He doesn't believe I need this and asked what happened. The reason I got angry at her is my tube in my left ear is always clogged. She said It was just a piece of cotton. The police had no problem seeing the clogged tube. This tube is worthless but very hard to remove but I can unclog it with a gas siphon this is her reason for calling the police self harm. My right tube somehow ended up on the left side in between my membrane and skull plate making a hole at my left ear and is somewhere now. My T doesn't want me talking about this to anyone but I need too post it. I can't just forget this so I decided I need to detach from my family until I can talk about it they are supportive anyway. I called my mom to tell her this and she spoke in a strange voice like I was a little kid.

[lilypup]

Good lord...you have my sympathy. Depression is bad enough without this kind of "help".