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Old Mar 09, 2017, 08:03 PM
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Talk through the tears. They'll hand you a tissue and sit stone faced. I guess they're used to seeing patients cry.

Just today, I had to tell my rheumatologist how my body has broken down because of my stress and emotions. He knows it's been the same problems for years, as he's been my doctor.

He said "Can't you get out of this?" I told him I'm trying.

Be your own advocate, Sophiesmom! Be strong for yourself.
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Old Mar 09, 2017, 08:19 PM
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Old Mar 09, 2017, 09:01 PM
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What do you do when you can't stop crying long enough to speak to a doctor?
Seriously, if this is the case and you're thinking of hurting yourself, it's time to go to the emergency room for help.

I've had times where I cry daily for weeks on end but I rarely cry all day and I usually feel a little better after I cry. But that's just my experience.
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Old Mar 10, 2017, 06:08 AM
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Hi Sophie's Mum

All the f***ing time... It annoys the crap out of me because I hate tears. They don't even belong to me. They just "happen".

So stupid and needy and awkward. I spend a long time in my shrink's office wiping them away because I HATE them.

He convinced me to take Zyprexa the other day. I know one ought not talk about specific drugs but honestly it's like pressing reset on a computer. I don't want to think drugs can help but they did... no tears for 24 hours...

And then I didn't take any more because I need to punish myself for being such a ****ful person, a failure as a mother, an idiot...

I'm sorry you feel so awful! One "MUST stay alive for one's children" apparently, so please see a doctor and swallow whatever you can.

"Sophie's" needs have to come before yours. Sucks, I know....

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Old Mar 10, 2017, 07:20 AM
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Hi Sophie's Mum

All the f***ing time... It annoys the crap out of me because I hate tears. They don't even belong to me. They just "happen".

So stupid and needy and awkward. I spend a long time in my shrink's office wiping them away because I HATE them.

He convinced me to take Zyprexa the other day. I know one ought not talk about specific drugs but honestly it's like pressing reset on a computer. I don't want to think drugs can help but they did... no tears for 24 hours...

And then I didn't take any more because I need to punish myself for being such a ****ful person, a failure as a mother, an idiot...

I'm sorry you feel so awful! One "MUST stay alive for one's children" apparently, so please see a doctor and swallow whatever you can.

"Sophie's" needs have to come before yours. Sucks, I know....

Take Care.

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We can talk about specific meds here. When you took the Zyprexa, were your thoughts of blame and beating yourself up suppressed? I'm doing the same self-hate, so I'm curious if that med helped.
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Old Mar 10, 2017, 12:55 PM
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Hi sophiesmom

I really do get how you don't feel you can do this anymore, and yes it has to be a massive "weight to bear".......day in........day out...........
And I'm sure so many people would feel like that if they were going through what you're going through...........
But what if that load could be lightened a bit.......??
So it's not just about putting up with/pushing on with/trying to push through this
I, and I'm sure we all, want much more for you than that
So.........the doctor...........if you cry in front of them..........well that's a symptom of the depression, right? And depression is just as real as a physical ailment.........you wouldn't feel bad if you were sitting in front of them and twitching (??) from a nerve disorder (??).........maybe??
It's a symptom of the depression.........and we know that's not even a fraction of it (!!)........it is what it is...........so they need to know how bad it is..........because you deserve help
And then maybe they and we can "lessen that load" a little

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Old Mar 12, 2017, 08:12 AM
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We can talk about specific meds here. When you took the Zyprexa, were your thoughts of blame and beating yourself up suppressed? I'm doing the same self-hate, so I'm curious if that med helped.
Sorry TishaBuv

I disappeared for a few days..

Zyprexa is the best drug on the planet. It makes u feel "normal"! It's an anti-psychotic in high doses and a mood stabilizer in lower doses.

It makes all the bad s*** go away and you get a whole new perspective! Within hours!

Downside - insane hunger and weight gain - but if you can't be in yr head and yr self hate is killing you, or yr planning to off yourself, that's a small price to pay!

Prozac and lithium and Xanax and quetiapine (seroquel) all failed me. Zyprexa rocks!

Beg for it!

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Old Mar 12, 2017, 08:58 AM
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I used to cry a lot, Sometimes I want to cry but the tears won't come. I think my medication has shut away my emotions.
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Old Mar 12, 2017, 11:42 AM
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I used to cry a lot, Sometimes I want to cry but the tears won't come. I think my medication has shut away my emotions.
I think some medications are made to do this. As Eskielover just advised me in one of my threads a "WISE MIND which puts together thoughts from our logical mind & our emotional mind to make the best possible decisions". When we are having MI, our decision making processes are flawed. Maybe our meds need to be adjusted to help us not be to overly or underly emotional....
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Old Mar 12, 2017, 12:24 PM
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I was crying all the time, at the drop of a hat. I wondered if it was depression, to be honest. I went off my birth control, though, and now I'm back to rarely crying even when I want to.

Depression can cause either. I'm willing to bet hormones play a huge role in it for many of us. Both are possible symptoms of depression (inability to cry and excessive crying).

I hope you're doing okay today, OP.
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I want to cry all the time, yet seldom manage to actually make it happen. It's like I'm pretty much all cried out at this point. I want to cry so often though.
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Old Mar 13, 2017, 01:49 AM
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I cry on my own sometimes but I'm very good at keeping all my tears inside, which I think is maybe not a good thing. I don't want people to see me cry, I suppose I think it would mean I'm not in control or weak.
When I was having therapy for 3 years I didn't cry once, I think my therapist wanted me to cry to release my pain and feelings but I didn't.
I think crying is a good thing as it lets the emotions out but I can't do it... I think I have an issue with this..
what does it mean if someone can't cry? I'm wondering what's wrong with me too...
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Old Mar 13, 2017, 06:08 AM
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I cry a lot.

I cry at things not worth crying about

it is also hard to stop me crying.

if I start crying, it can be for hours at a time- and it's loud crying, none of this silent stuff

often I try to talk while i'm crying which never really works, it just sounds weird when you try to get the words out
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Old Mar 13, 2017, 06:30 AM
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Crying is overrated!

I hate it!

No-one gives a s*** so why draw attention to myself??

HATE tears!! Rather medicate them away!

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Old Mar 13, 2017, 07:10 AM
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Old Mar 13, 2017, 07:52 AM
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If I feel "really horribly depressed" (probably depressed and anxious) I may feel the vague desire to cry but just can't do it at all. It's annoying, like a sneeze you can't produce, and it makes me feel blank.
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Old Mar 13, 2017, 09:05 AM
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Old Mar 13, 2017, 01:11 PM
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How are you going Sophie's Mom?
Hi FallingTears.....

I'm wondering how I could possibly cry so much...where is it coming from and why?

Not for nuthin' but I'm an ugly crier...no dainty moist eyes here....I bawl, and I bawl loudly. Unless I'm out and then I try to hide as best I can.

I don't feel better for doing it, either. I wish there was a switch on us.
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I was crying a lot until 2009. For some reason, I hardly cry anymore even if I'm really depressed.
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Old Mar 14, 2017, 11:17 PM
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I don't know why some people cry all the time Sophie's Mom.

Since I started being a "good girl" and taking the drugs, the crying is far less.

If I think about my children and the life I used to have before I fell down the rabbit hole (realised my marriage was only ever one-sided and discovered just how deceitful one man can be) I cry and they're sad tears...

I wonder if the rest of the time when they're "random", it's because the agony is still there and the tears remind you that even when you're distracted, the reasons for crying remain...

Even experts are a bit baffled by chronic crying...

Do u have someone to hug you when yr crying? If you have, let them.

If u don't, get the drugs... are you seeing a therapist?

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Old Mar 14, 2017, 11:26 PM
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I have found that most people don't necessarily cry when they're sad, or angry. I have found that people will shed tears during a state of either intense happiness or intense frustration. A brain is fixed and created to keep the body and itself alive. Fight or flight dictates it to create a certain level of anger in order to do one or the other. Essentially, my theory, is that your brain is attempting to fight off the "threat" of depression. It's like the U.S. Civil War. It is utilizing primitive tactics against new-aged weapons (fight or flight response vs. depression).

Sadness + Anger = Frustration; in many cases. Your brain can't fight its enemy effectively and therefore is utilizing a newer tactic of "release" in an attempt to remove toxins and change up hormones. It's fighting off your depression the only way it knows how.

At least, this is my theory, so take it with a grain of salt.
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Old Mar 15, 2017, 11:17 AM
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I quit crying years ago. I'm not sure why, the tears just quit coming. Sometimes I wish that I could cry but nothing comes.
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Old Jul 02, 2017, 11:00 AM
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sophiasmom... you said you didnt know why you cry so much....maybe I can help with this....

when I was having this problem my treatment providers showed me a film on depression and how it changes things like hormones, the rate that neurons fire their electrical impulses and the rate that the receptors pick up the electrical impulses and the amount of time those impulses have remained in the center fluid between the neurons and receptors. All this together means a persons emotions are erratic...some people cry a lot, some people laugh at inappropriate times, some people go through anger problems some people when depressed go through a mixture of emotions called mood swings.

there is medication to fix this problem called anti depressants and hormone pills, finding the right combination sometimes takes a bit of time.

my suggestion is contact your treatment providers, let them know you are having a problem with what you feel is excessive crying. they will help you to get to the bottom of why this is happening for you and start getting you on the right treatment plans so that this doesnt keep happening for you.
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Old Jul 02, 2017, 03:40 PM
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I rarely cry but for some reason I cried buckets of tears last week. It was cathartic.
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Old Jul 02, 2017, 03:57 PM
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I wish I could....meds keep me from weeping although if I think of missing my sons I can get teary
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