[shezbut]

While my bf, himself, was depressed and suicidal years ago, he absolutely lacks understanding. Isn't that weird?? He gets mad at me and snaps at me for not appreciating what I do have in life.

Tonight, I snapped back at him that my increased depression has physical causes. Two of my medicines are battling right now amongst one another. My trigeminal neuralgia medicine makes my anti-depressant get used up faster ~ scientifically proven. I was warned by my epileptolgist about that fact. Then, you add my chronic tummy issues on top, and I'm not getting much of ANY medicine into my system. I am not just making this *&^% up. He ticked me off!! I have mentioned how low I've been feeling to my bf several times in the past week or so. It's not like this is new.

So, why in the world would he make remarks like this to me?

I'm sure not "feeling the love" between us. I feel even *more* alone. I don't even want to see him at all now

[Sunflower123]

Can you live with that? Does it negatively impact your condition? Would he be willing to go to therapy with you? In no way, shape or form am I advocating this for you but one of the hardest decisions I had to make was divorcing my husband of 19 years because he didn't believe in MI and the dynamics were making my sicker. The first year was hellish but I started getting better. Good luck and best wishes.

[*Laurie*]

Maybe your depression reminds him of his own, which maybe he feels is uncontrollable and scary. So he lashes out at you.

[shezbut]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

Can you live with that? Does it negatively impact your condition? Would he be willing to go to therapy with you?

Jennifer, I don't think that I *can* live with it.

Tonight, W told me that he spent 3 months working on his low self-esteem/depression years ago. 3 months ~ that's it?? I've been struggling for more than 30 years! W simply cannot understand my experiences. W thinks: What's the problem? It only took me a month to start making some big changes in my life.

Well, that is him. W is a different person, with different experiences in his life. W now says that he's willing to step aside and simply wait for me to be ready.

Well, what if I don't come to that point? I've got a lot of stuff going on in my life right now. Physical, emotional, and financial. I know W, and he is expecting me to contact him (letting him know that I've been thinking of him & am ready) within a week. He first told me that if he didn't hear anything within 3-4 days, he'd take that as cue that I've moved on.

No pressure there.... Jeez!!!!!