[never. happy]

So my mom got a call today from her younger brother who lives in the U.K (we live in India) and asking her for my resume so he could talk to one of the managers he knows to get me a job(I'm in my final year of my engineering bachelor degree due to end this month). But I don't wanna give him my resume because, a; I still have 11 subjects to clear and no one in my mom's family knows that, and, b; I don't want his contacts, i.e., the managers to think lowly of him, because I have a low percentage(and trust me, my uncle's a really smart guy and an achiever) and straight out suck at anything i do... I try not to, but somehow I manage to. Despite the fact that I've had these mental health conditions, nothing changes the fact that I've failed to meet standards and get my grades up to an acceptable level. I feel ashamed that my mother has to deflect questions about my academics when relatives ask.

P.S: I just wish I can answer atleast some of the forum threads that other people have... so many members have come forward to help me in any way possible. But I just can't because I don't know how to; the hugs i give out are the only way I can express my hoping that the person feels better. Just wanted you guys to know that

[Sunflower123]

I appreciate every hug I receive. I understand the meaning behind it and know the sender wishes me well. You're doing just fine in that regard. Please be gentle and compassionate with yourself. I'm impressed that you are in school in engineering no less....I'm sure not an easy degree to get especially with MI.

Does your mother understand the reasons for your reluctance for handing over your resume? Are you interested in the kind of job potentially being offered? If this just isn't the right time for you...you or your mom could come up with an acceptable deflection. Please don't be so hard on yourself....you're doing the best you can under difficult circumstances. Good luck and best wishes. Thinking of you....

[Frankbtl]

Hi never. happy

Sounds like you're really achieving too you know!!
You're working towards your engineering bachelors degree and you're working towards clearing your final subjects despite mental health conditions!!! That, to me, is achieving!!!
Now I know nothing about your mom or uncle, but isn't there the chance that they'd still think your achievements were good, even be proud of you??
And your uncle's employers, well you've obviously still got something to really give based on how far you've got, so maybe they could fit you into a job that fits your skills/knowledge as it is (will be when you finish) which could also help you develop on and fully utilise these.........it might well not be the case that they would be expecting x, y or z because you're your uncles nephew, it might more be that they see what you can do and then make the most of you in whatever role suits you??
Just some thoughts...........
But either way you could always tell your mom that you aren't ready yet to give him your resume and that you want to carry on working a little more on your grades first, maybe??
And yes, carry on working on those grades, you can only do the best you can do, and it certainly sounds like you've had some difficulties in your mental health holding you back a little so still feel proud of yourself, hey??!!

P.S. Hugs you give out on here can be priceless, so don't worry about not answering threads at all!!! Hugs can mean a lot to people!!

Alison

[never. happy]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I appreciate every hug I receive. I understand the meaning behind it and know the sender wishes me well. You're doing just fine in that regard. Please be gentle and compassionate with yourself. I'm impressed that you are in school in engineering no less....I'm sure not an easy degree to get especially with MI.

Does your mother understand the reasons for your reluctance for handing over your resume? Are you interested in the kind of job potentially being offered? If this just isn't the right time for you...you or your mom could come up with an acceptable deflection. Please don't be so hard on yourself....you're doing the best you can under difficult circumstances. Good luck and best wishes. Thinking of you....

Yes, she does. Infact, we have identical reasons. I'm actually interested in everything, but more than that, I need money. And about the deflection... I don't want to have to make our anyone my family deflect.

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by never. happy

Yes, she does. Infact, we have identical reasons. I'm actually interested in everything, but more than that, I need money. And about the deflection... I don't want to have to make our anyone my family deflect.

You still have 11 subjects to clear? What if you told your uncle that? That would give you some time to bring up your GPA and finish your degree.