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May 13, 2017, 02:37 PM
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I was wondering if any of these words can be sub optimal when constantly repeated to self
 
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#2
May 13, 2017, 02:45 PM
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"should"
"always" "never" Those words tend to "raise flags" for me when I read or hear them.  Repeated internal affirmations that include any of those words... Well, it would be wise to carefully assess what one is trying to accomplish with such mantras. 
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May 16, 2017, 01:01 PM
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I'm spraying crop spray on ridiculous noxious seeds and weeds
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May 16, 2017, 04:21 PM
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Judgmental (should) as well as black-&-white terminology (never / always) is, more often than not, dangerous territory... in my opinion.
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May 17, 2017, 01:14 PM
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I agree with the above. My dad raised me with "You should have..." rather than telling me I did well or encouraging me by commenting on the positive. I was, and will always be, not good enough.
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May 17, 2017, 04:40 PM
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"Should"
"Never" "Always" "Not good enough"  Dangerous territory
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May 17, 2017, 07:59 PM
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Sounds like negative words. I have heard those words too often myself.
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#8
May 18, 2017, 06:29 PM
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