[BlueDaisy1211]

Hello everyone

So my mother is depressed. She is under medications and she changed them twice (with the doctor's control). She is usually a complaining person. She complains about almost everything. I feel like her depression made things worse. From the moment she wakes up she starts whining an complaining and repeating that she is not ok. I asked her to do therapy in addition to the medication but she refuses. My question is this normal for someone with depression ? and even if we are trying to be patient she is missing with our sanity as well !! so what can we possibly do without affecting her in a negative way !! I wish people who dealt with depression can help me figure out how they would like to be treated in this case... Thank you in advance

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by BlueDaisy1211

Hello everyone

So my mother is depressed. She is under medications and she changed them twice (with the doctor's control). She is usually a complaining person. She complains about almost everything. I feel like her depression made things worse. From the moment she wakes up she starts whining an complaining and repeating that she is not ok. I asked her to do therapy in addition to the medication but she refuses. My question is this normal for someone with depression ? and even if we are trying to be patient she is missing with our sanity as well !! so what can we possibly do without affecting her in a negative way !! I wish people who dealt with depression can help me figure out how they would like to be treated in this case... Thank you in advance

The way people with depression act varies widely. I have severe depression yet my doctors and people who know me say they are surprised because I don't 'present' that way. I try very hard for my depression not to impact my family members. On the toughest days my daughter holds my hand or sits with me and lets me know everything is going to be ok. This is comforting. Having said that, I have a therapist worth her weight in gold to help me navigate this and your mother needs one too. If she absolutely refuses, you and your other family members need at least 1 or 2 sessions with someone for yourself so you can learn to manage her without getting worn down yourselves. I really feel for you. It's a tough situation. Best wishes.

[Fuzzybear]

[Ceara1010]

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

I try very hard for my depression not to impact my family members.

I know what you mean. I try not to let my depression affect others and usually come across to others as more cheerful than I'm actually feeling. I don't want to bring others down if I'm feeling down.

--Ceara