[therealme]

tonight i was watching tv, when i decided to make myself a cup of coffee.. and that is when my daughter started to cry, some hurtful girl was calling her all sorts of names , my wife jumped on the computer and started talking to this horrid girl, but thats when this girl started on the whole family,
this made me so angry, i phoned one of my daughters friends !! to get this girls name.,.
yes i was getting angrier and angrier i was trying to protect my daughter, ..................but i was told to shut up.........(by wife) i just wanted my daughter to stop crying, to protect her..... was this so bad,??

earlier on today, one our friends told us that one of our daughters friends was slagging off her daughter, so we spoke to daughter about her friend, and we stopped they both from going to a youth club. (but this was my daughters friends mouth.. , not my daughter)

but this girl on msn doesnt know us, who gives her the right to slate my whole family, who does she think she is to call us "low lifes" and "skanks"...

i sorry if me getting angry is wrong, but its the only way i know how to show i care... (sounds like a croke of %#@&#!, but its true)
so why cant i get angry when i cant even protect my daughter / family..
im such a failure................... such a joke.................... such a bad defender of my family

[Fuzzybear]

I'm really sorry dear Dec!! You're a wonderful father and you're absolutely not a failure
(((((((((((((((( Dec ))))))))))))))))

[_Hope_]

if only all dads cared as much as you
i wish my dad tried to protect me instead of hurt me

you are always doing the right thing by trying to protect your daughter. just make sure you go about it the right way
Linda

oh dec you're so not a failure, you love your daughter, I wish my dad had been as caring as you are!!!!! I'm always defending my two, i would defend them to the death, even if they tell me not to get involved, I will not let anyone hurt them, You are a good dad, you CARE.

Love you, Jinny xoxoxoxoxoxoxo((((((((((((dec))))))))))))

you're a wonderful dad dec........you had reason to get angry..........you're not wrong!

I also think you are a wonderful father.

I`m sorry your daughter got hurt. ((((Daughter))))

[wickedwings]

((((therealme))))) you're a great dad, and i wish i had a dad like you. honest. i never had a dad. i did, but he wasn't a dad like he was supposed to be. you're not wrong for wanting to help your daughter. i wish you and your family the best.

[sweetheart]

OMGGGG if only you kneww... you remind me of my father. When he was going through depression we were losing lots of money (the disease did that to him). And he felt hopeless and pathetic and a bad protector of the family too.

As his daughter I just wanted to see him smile again, nothing else mattered! I didn't care about the money or anything.

From a daughters prospective, don't worry about it.

One more thing- I know it might suck to hear this but there's nothing you can do (as a daughter myself). If YOU step in and "deal with it", she'll feel like she has to hide behind her father and feel worse about herself. I mean this with humor- but if she's a teenager, you're gonna be uncool no matter how cool you are!

Just teach her the power of forgiving such a mean girl- that's the best lesson that can come out of this.

[heyjoe]

there isnt much you can do about keyboard commandos.....they live in the shadows, we cant get to them. I dont see anything wrong with you getting mad about it, its only natural......its a man thing, women wouldnt understand.

As a parent I WOULD step in and deal with this, she is a child you are the parent it is your job to protect, this is bullying plain and simple, in England this is illegal and if you took a print out of the MSN message (which is in the history and still there) to the police they would deal with this issue ......

women do understand.............I would have been mad too.
No one messes with my kids

You did a good job DEC

[katheryn]

i was mad but woman handle things diferant, i have blocked this contact and deleated her from my daughters account, i also stopped my daughter going to the youth club before this happened because i was afarid it would kick of there,
i spoke with this girl for half an hour after and fell sorry shes got nothing better to do than jump on someone elses battles, spoke also to daughters friends mum and explained what had happened she also agreed that the bully had no right to interferee with the girls problems we have sugested they get to geather on there own and sort it out keeping away from the offending girls while they are in that area
luckly they dont attend the same school,

i would move heaven and earth for my family i would fight there battles wrap them in cotton wool if i thought it would help

((((((((((((((((TRM)))))))))))))))))
((((((((((((((((chickens))))))))))))))))))))

[kebsfroggy]

Oh Dec, I'm so sorry for you and your family. I would certainly expect you to want to protect your family. You are a good dad.

Because of our depression we (you and I) blow up, reacting with anger to situations that attack our family. If one more person says "cooler heads will prevail"......well things won't be pretty. When we do calm down then the guilt and sadness move in. It dosen't ever seem to change.

You are a loving and caring dad. Your family means the world to you. Enjoy them while you can. All to soon your daughter will be out on her own. Savor your together time while you can.

(((((((((( therealme and family ))))))))))

[sabby]

((((((((((((((((( Dec & Family )))))))))))))))))))

Life can be so vicious sometimes....and so can teenage girls!! I'm so sorry your daughter had to go through that....But YOU are not a bad dad. The fact that you care enough to get upset shows how much you love your daughter. Some dads wouldn't have given that situation any thought at all.

I know it's hard to watch your kids go through stuff like this. I used to try to save my daughters from such meanness too, but to no avail. They had to learn how to deal with it the best way they could. All I could do was be there to talk to them and validate their feelings and show them that no matter what, they were loved and they mattered! And I'm sure you already do that

*Gentle Hugs*
sabby