How to win oneself over inner demons?

Dear friends, I am a divorcee, and I have lost access to my wife and children who I love and will love until my last breath. My break up was many reasons, but I accept my responsibility. But to be honest the society I live they don’t accept mix race marriages and although we were happy for a long time once we have kids, things turned more real. I heard people say that I make their pure blood impure. Which is an insult to my kids. So my wife decided is best that my kids grow up away from me. So when I get to see them we find a secret place. Is awful. My father passed away two months ago and couldn’t see his granddaughters. This is just awful.

All these recent experiences have created in me demons, demons that I need to overcome. And I ask for your help and advice my friends.

I have no one but you guys , and I have been used and abused.
And need help.

Is heartbreaking

It must be truly horrible.. where do you live? In Japan? I don't know how that works there, but aren't there any laws that prevent your ex-wife to keep the children away from you entirely? You should be able to see them regularly..

Yes I live in Japan, and yes there are laws but I only get to see them once a month for only 4 hours. I feel like they have been taken from me. I really have to deal with this some how. I dont know why they host the Olympics here, there are so narrow minded

Wow I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Here for you buddy!

Thanks mates ,I am so demotivated I can’t get to work I feel paralyzed . I can’t get out of bed to go to work, please give me some advice how to get myself To work is important, I never felt so down.

I'm really sorry to hear that you are suffering this way.
You asked for advice for something you can do. I want to share with you a method that I learned that lessens suffering. It is a step-by-step thought process. It helps you neutralize the emotional trauma that a bad situation causes in you.

This is the step-by-step process of how to do that. It involves taking a thought that makes you suffer. Like we take the thought, "my children have been taken from me" and first we ask, who took the children? It sounds like your wife took them, but also you feel like society is to blame for them being taken.

So we say, "Society has taken my family from me." In this process we call this the "judgement." Next, you fill out this worksheet http://thework.com/thework-old/downl..._Worksheet.pdf for the judgement of "society has taken my children from me." The worksheet asks you to answer a series of questions. Once you've done that, then you do the "turnarounds." Where you say the opposite of the statement to the other, to the self, and to your thoughts.

So you say, "society has not taken my children from me" and you think about how that could be true. Perhaps it's because the love of a father can't be diminished by distance or time. Perhaps it's because you refuse to let your children be taken from you in your heart and spirit even under any physical circumstances you have to endure.

Then you say, "I have taken society from my children" and you think about how that could be true. Perhaps it's that your view on society has being narrow minded and unkind has taken the possibilities of what "society" could be from your children. Perhaps in that you are defining "society" by their views on interracial marriage, you are limiting the way your children will be able to understand and perceive society. Perhaps by shielding your children from the realities that they might face in society, you are preventing them from developing in a way that might give them more options when they grow up.

Then you say, "I have taken my children from society" and you think about how that might be true. Perhaps it's because that by downplaying your interracial marriage, you are actually robbing society of meeting, understanding and changing their views based on interaction with your children. By giving in to society's pressures, you are taking away people's chance to change their views for the better.

This is an example of how the process works. It helps you realize that it isn't your situation that's causing you the immense suffering you feel, but instead it is your thoughts that you're believing about that situation. This process helps you disperse those thoughts and lessen your suffering. You just keep doing it over and over until you stop suffering. It really does work.

And once you are free from that terrible pain of suffering, your mind can concentrate on practical solutions, like how to make the best of the situation as it is, or how to change the situation for the better.

There's a lot more info about this method at The Work | The Work of Byron Katie

Dear Winterbritt, thank you so much for sharing the work from Byron Katie. This is really helpful and will apply it to my life. This is what may give me clarity and peace I feel. Finally I get to see my kids this weekend after two long months. I am so happy but scared as well. My life is so messed up and i feel so like i have been screwed over, so hate, resentment and sadness is something that I hope the work can help me get rid off

Love you all thank you

I'm so glad that it helped. I really hope things are going well for you. Just continue to sort through the beliefs. Don't give up. You can do it.

Thank you so much, love you all, yesterday was my daughters birthday had a sad day one of those which all come together. But I just wanted to witness what was happening and accept that is the universe who decides in the end.