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Hello everyone! (Sorry for my bad English in advance, it's not my first language)
I would really appreciate your feedback. I am a 22 year female. Long story short, it all started 3 or 4 years ago. I've completely lost interest in reading (which was my ultimate hobby since childhood), watching TV shows, doing crafts. I often cried, felt very annoyed or sad without any reason, constantly overslept. I had suicidal thoughts. Once I almost got hit by a car and I cried because it didn't hit me and I still had to deal with life. That reaction really scared me. There were days when I couldn't force myself to get up, to eat, to take a shower. I kept telling to myself "It will go away, just wait". For a moment I felt like things started to get better but I was wrong. Just last Saturday without any reason I cried for so long my ribs and stomach began to hurt. I've read dozens of articles about depression, and it seemed like they perfectly describe my case. I also took a lot of online tests (I know they are not 100% true) and always had results like "high possibility of severe depression". I did that to convince myself I need help. I've been searching for a therapist and forcing myself to seek help for over a year now (psychology is not very popular in my country, plus I am very shy). Today I've had my first ever therapy session. I told the therapist "I think I might be depressed" right away and she looked at me dubiously. At first she seemed kind of nice, but then she asked "when you cry, where is it coming from?" I pointed at my throat because that's where you have a lump when you cry, right? She then told me that's where my grudge is and after that our conversation kept gravitating towards a relationship between me and my mother when I don't think it's a problem at all. She said a lot of things about me I disagree with and repeatedly mentioned her family, she also said stuff like "I've had the same thoughts when I was younger, it will pass". When I said I would love to go to the USA, she replied "You know, my son didn't like it there". To top that, she said "I will tell you something even my husband doesn't know"... was I supposed to feel flattered? She also said I have lust for life. It was very nice of her since I haven't seen my lust for life for 4 years. Overall I felt that she was very condescending and treated me like a child. She said that I'm not depressed, that I need to stop feeling pity for myself, take up sports and talk to my mother more. I felt very bad after that session. That was my worse nightmare to be told "you don't have depression, you just exaggerate everything". And it came true. Should I look for another therapist or sharing personal stuff with a client and saying thing like that is just a normal thing therapists do? |
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Your therapist does not sound like a good therapist to me. She doesn't know what you are going through. She is basically telling you to stop feeling depressed. That is not helpful. Depression is difficult. You need a therapist with compassion that spends more time "listening to" what you are experiencing rather than "telling you" what you are experiencing.
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Well, if you weren't depressed, you wouldn't have to go to therapy. I thought therapy was your time to tell her how you feel. She needs to be understanding and have patience. I'd look for another therapist.
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This person isn’t a good therapist
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Hello FanCastle: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks!
![]() ![]() By the way, are you familiar with California family therapist Kati Morton's mental health videos on YouTube? Kati is wonder! Perhaps becoming involved in watching Kati's videos might be helpful to you. Here's a link to Kati's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/KatiMorton I wish you well... ![]() ![]()
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