It's impossible not to beat myself when i make a mistake

Wild Coyote · Jan 17, 2018, 08:25 AM

Please don't apologize for posting. You have not hurt anyone.
People are letting you know they can relate to your feelings.
Please share and seek support here anytime; this is a support forum.

How are you doing?

WC

Sunflower123 · Jan 17, 2018, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by matthew1998

Hi thank you for posting and sorry if i really upset you but thank you again

You didn’t upset me. I just wanted to show my support for you and to comfort you but didn’t know what to say. Sending big hugs.

matthew1998 · Jan 23, 2018, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain

Matthew1998
I am very sorry that you are struggling.
I am here if you want to talk.

Hey thank you i appreciate it, it really means a lot i'd be happy to talk if you'd like to

matthew1998 · Jan 23, 2018, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Rose76

Matthew, there are people way, way worse than you who don't feel the least bit bad about who they are. Some of them are out selling drugs to kids, or beating up their spouses, or getting ready to rob someone's home. And some of them have lots of friends and even have lovers. Connecting with people isn't based on whether or not you deserve to connect. Some rotten people have loads of friends.

Watch the news and see what absolutely miserable people are out there in the world passing themselves off as fine. So try to lighten up on yourself. You do need to venture out of your house, if you want to connect to potential friends. Sitting at the keyboard is a good way to stay isolated.

Was there someone in your life who taught you to be very harsh toward yourself? I don't think you got this way all by yourself.

Thanks so much for commenting, yeah your right i know i should get out of the house but i really just have no idea what to do i guess i want to make friends but i have no idea how every day i sit alone by myself and this loneliness is making me go crazy i feel like i'm in a black hole and i can't escape

matthew1998 · Jan 23, 2018, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

Please don't apologize for posting. You have not hurt anyone.
People are letting you know they can relate to your feelings.
Please share and seek support here anytime; this is a support forum.

How are you doing?

WC

I'm doing okay right now still just alone and thank you again for everything and i would like to talk to more people on here just not really sure how to go about doing it i guess

matthew1998 · Jan 23, 2018, 02:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

You didn’t upset me. I just wanted to show my support for you and to comfort you but didn’t know what to say. Sending big hugs.

aww haha i see well i really appreciate it thank you again for being so nice i'm truly grateful

Rose76 · Jan 23, 2018, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by matthew1998

Thanks so much for commenting, yeah your right i know i should get out of the house but i really just have no idea what to do i guess i want to make friends but i have no idea how every day i sit alone by myself and this loneliness is making me go crazy i feel like i'm in a black hole and i can't escape

Well, Matthew, let's say you know what not to do - staying in the house. You know that's getting you nowhere.

I was never much of a social butterfly, myself. What I find helpful is some sort of structured activity. Going to school, even just for one class, can help - though often I found that disappointing. (Classes where you learn to do something work better.) Volunteering is something I think can allow you to interact in a meaningful way. I got some nice invitations from fellow volunteers. The trick is to stick with it. If you want an instant payoff, you may be very disappointed. The local animal welfare shelter often needs help. These days agencies recruiting volunteers act like employers, wanting an application filled out with references. So you have to get past that.

I made some friends just from taking a dog to the park. We started walking our dogs together. That led to other things. Then there are "meet ups" which I haven't tried, but some say they're good.

I hope you'll try something. Nothing will change until you do something new.