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Old Jul 13, 2018, 04:03 PM
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My depression and lonilness makes me vulnerable and I even try to buy friends buy giving things to people or spending money on them to keep them close or closer which I wouldn't even say that it works it just makes me look pathetic and needy which I am which makes me want to die
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Maybe you need to change some of those behaviours.

And keeping calling yourself weak and needy..... . Would you call a friend that?
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Old Jul 13, 2018, 04:26 PM
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I do need to change . It's hard though . No i wouldn't call friends weak and needy . I feel so down . Thx fuzzy bear
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Maybe you need to change some of those behaviours.

And keeping calling yourself weak and needy..... . Would you call a friend that?
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Old Jul 13, 2018, 04:40 PM
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I do need to change . It's hard though . No i wouldn't call friends weak and needy . I feel so down . Thx fuzzy bear
I think maybe that internal voice calling you weak, needy and other things comes from abusers - I’ve had abusers calling me the most awful things ,all of them untrue....

Nobody is “strong” all the time.. some may think they are..

I hope you can be kind to yourself today, I’m sending gentle hugs
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Old Jul 13, 2018, 05:36 PM
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My depression and lonilness makes me vulnerable and I even try to buy friends buy giving things to people or spending money on them to keep them close or closer which I wouldn't even say that it works it just makes me look pathetic and needy which I am which makes me want to die
I feel like this all the time! Except my try to hard to make plans that don't always work out. Eventually I end up doing more harm than good.
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Old Jul 13, 2018, 05:37 PM
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Maybe you need to change some of those behaviours.

And keeping calling yourself weak and needy..... . Would you call a friend that?
That great advice! I wish I had thought about that myself!
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Old Jul 13, 2018, 05:39 PM
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I think maybe that internal voice calling you weak, needy and other things comes from abusers - I’ve had abusers calling me the most awful things ,all of them untrue....

Nobody is “strong” all the time.. some may think they are..

I hope you can be kind to yourself today, I’m sending gentle hugs
That is great advice! I wish that I had thought about that!
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Old Jul 14, 2018, 12:42 AM
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I feel like this all the time! Except my try to hard to make plans that don't always work out. Eventually I end up doing more harm than good.
I don't bother making plans any more because I would always cancel them because I wouldn't feel up to it
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Old Jul 14, 2018, 02:51 AM
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I don't bother making plans any more because I would always cancel them because I wouldn't feel up to it

It's happening the same with me. I make plans and then can't follow on them. Bc I m feeling sleepy, lazy and unmotivated all the time...want to stay in bed 24/7. I feel disappointed and depressed.
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Old Jul 14, 2018, 03:25 AM
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I think maybe that internal voice calling you weak, needy and other things comes from abusers - I’ve had abusers calling me the most awful things ,all of them untrue....

Nobody is “strong” all the time.. some may think they are..

I hope you can be kind to yourself today, I’m sending gentle hugs

Good post Fuzzy! Applicable for me too...Im going to try to follow your advice.
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Old Jul 14, 2018, 03:27 AM
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Maybe you need to change some of those behaviours.

And keeping calling yourself weak and needy..... . Would you call a friend that?

Even I would suggest that you try to change some of those behaviours. Love and hugs to you.
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