[DarknessForever]

Hey, everyone. I must say, I was doing okay for a while. I felt like I was out of my depression (well, in better control of it), and I was trying to work on my anxiety with my therapist. Then I hit a huge bump and I am in a deeper hole than I have been in for over 2 years. Don't get wrong, I never got over my depression, but I could at least do what needed to be done. Now, I can't even manage to get out of bed on most days. You see, my grandma was one of my only real supports and she passed away in April. Not long after that happened, my only Friend here in Kansas since I moved has dropped me because she found a boyfriend. She hasn't talked to me in 3 months or more. Honestly, I can't keep track anymore. It has all finally gotten to me. It was just one or two days of class and work. I managed to go the next 4 or 5 days. Then it was another day of class and work. And another. As of now, I have missed 4-5 days straight of work and class because my alarm goes off, I shut it off, and struggle with my thought on whether I should get up or not. The not always wins. I cannot afford to fail class or get fired because I can't get out of bed! This is all I have!! Not only that, but the more class and work I miss, the worse I feel and the more I beat myself up over missing. It is a vicious cycle. You know what's even worse? Getting nauseous over not getting out of bed but still not being able to move. When I do get out of bed, I automatically want to go back to my room and think I should have just stayed in bed that day. Please, I am begging anyone who I listening to me. If you have any advice, any way to make myself get out of bed in the morning, please let me know. I am desperate. I am tired of making my family worry, of messing up my life. Help me.

[SlumberKitty]

((((DarknessForever)))) I'm sorry you aren't feeling well. Hang in there.

[stewartmays1]

im in the same kinda boat sounds like you need some kind of purpose in life to get you out of bed and going again good luck

[Sunflower123]

I’m sorry you are struggling so and I understand. I went through a period of years where I couldn’t get out of bed and it is distressing. Do you take medication? If not, do you think that might help? What about a therapist or life coach? Finally, please be gentle with yourself. The struggle is hard but it will be easier if you show yourself compassion. You are doing the best that you can.

Sending big hugs and supportive vibes your way.

[lotusblossom19]

Getting out of bed is often VERY difficult for me as well. Sorry to hear it. I know the struggle. I'd suggest setting your alarm on your device and placing the device across the room or just at a distance far enough that you know you'll have to get up in order to turn off the alarm. Maybe set the alarm so that it gradually increases in volume as well. I'm not great with advice but I truly hope this helps and I wish you the very best. You can make it through this storm.

[DarknessForever]

Thank you, Jennifer 1967. I am currently seeing a therapist. I have an appointment on Thursday, and I plan on talking with her then. I am also taking medication. It was working wonderfully for months, then it just stopped. I don't know if this is due to what is going on, or if I should try a new med.

[ptangptang]

Yep put the alarm out of reach so you have to get up to turn it off. Set several alarms. Have your days clean clothes in a pile by the bed and put them on as soon as you get up. put all the house lights on and pull the curtains. Put some upbeat , loudish music on. Pull all the bedding off the bed. ( do that first). By that time the bed will be cold. who wants to get into a cold, unmade bed. You could also sleep on a fold up bed and physically put it away ( bit extreme but needs must). Be creative . what ever works. Make it as awkward as possible to go back to bed.
Give yourself enough time to get a good nights sleep and go to bed at the same time every night. Do things during the day that make you tired. Don't sleep during the day. Ok that'll do. Good luck

[DarknessForever]

Thank you, ptangptang! I am going to try this as soon as possible!

Originally Posted by DarknessForever

Thank you, ptangptang! I am going to try this as soon as possible!

I love your signiture, is that your saying or did you get it from somewhere?

what do you enjoy doing. is their anything you'd like to maybe try?

just thinking of stuff you could do when you are up

[Fuzzybear]

[DarknessForever]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

I love your signiture, is that your saying or did you get it from somewhere?

what do you enjoy doing. is their anything you'd like to maybe try?

just thinking of stuff you could do when you are up

If you are talking about mine, thank you! I wrote it myself based on how I was feeling at the time. I have some things I have set up to try for the next couple of days, so I will just have to see how they go.

[MickeyCheeky]

I hope things will get better. for you I struggle a lot with motivation as well, so I understand how you feel.