[Fuzzybear]

I had hoped that I would find a therapist with some humanity, a therapist who treated me with some respect. In more than 12 years I have not found a therapist with humanity. So I suppose, the Problem Must Be Me


I am also such a freak that I’m allergic to all the much recommended medications.

Maybe the “Problem Should Be Eliminated”

This “beyond help” Problem - me

Please do not bite me for being honest. I was not allowed to express honest feelings in therapy, I got slandered. I got bitten. please do not bite me here.

[mulan]

I hate tough love (I don't know if it is the case), but I wonder if it is suppose to do me some good. It may work with other people though. My sister uses a lot of tough love on me, it feels like she isn't listening, but it doesn't mean she isn't, she is just trying to help me move on (apparently it works with her patients). I am to sensitive and that's part of the problem. But therapy is not one way fits all, I think a good therapist must adapt to the patient's needs.
I am quick to close up my feelings everytime I feel judge and I know that's part of the problem too. Through the years I have been trying to be more open and less sensitive, it is not easy.
Some times being listened without judgement is all that I want. Someone told me that one of the basic human needs is being listened to.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by mulan

I hate tough love (I don't know if it is the case), but I wonder if it is suppose to do me some good. It may work with other people though. My sister uses a lot of tough love on me, it feels like she isn't listening, but it doesn't mean she isn't, she is just trying to help me move on (apparently it works with her patients). I am to sensitive and that's part of the problem. But therapy is not one way fits all, I think a good therapist must adapt to the patient's needs.
I am quick to close up my feelings everytime I feel judge and I know that's part of the problem too. Through the years I have been trying to be more open and less sensitive, it is not easy.
Some times being listened without judgement is all that I want. Someone told me that one of the basic human needs is being listened to.

I hate “tough love” too. I completely agree that one of the basic human needs is being listened to.

Thanks to all here on pc who have the ability to listen

[Thirty shades]

Fuzzy you are not the problem at all.

Therapists are the failures, it is there job to treat us and we are still suffering...

Much love to you

PS I sometimes get some temporary relief by laying down and attempting to relax and then ask the pain if I can be its friend.

I wish we had a cure....

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

Fuzzy you are not the problem at all.

Therapists are the failures, it is there job to treat us and we are still suffering...

Much love to you

PS I sometimes get some temporary relief by laying down and attempting to relax and then ask the pain if I can be its friend.

I wish we had a cure....

Much love to you Thirty shades

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by mulan

a good therapist must adapt to the patient's needs

I agree.

I've had far fewer experiences with therapists than you, @Fuzzybear. None of mine were much help, but none were toxic. I can see where the wrong therapist ("therapist") could do serious damage. Dangerous damage.

The parental units and others started a grease fire, then the therapists threw water on it.

[mote.of.soul]

Thanks for expressing your feelings (((Fuzzybear))), I feel your pain as well.

I had a psychologist and a doctor whose whole attitude and demeanor with me went downhill because I dared to ask them if there were any medications that could help me[!] - "AHA! Drug Seeking!! Criminal!!" But I've had a number of discriminatory experiences like that and never really bounced back. I don't trust them either my friend. If you don't mind me mentioning Fuzzy, I fully respect the fact that you can't use medication (((Hugs))) and it's probably just as well - I'm lucky in the sense that my meds do help to an extent but the merry-go-round of trying different ones to see what works for me, and the damage and side effects those previous meds left me with - well, I feel like I've been scammed.

Such a difficult path and thanks for letting me share as well. I'm happy the internet is here so I don't feel alone in my own struggles.

Thanks Fuzzy. You're absolutely not the problem and fight on please, with the rest of us.

[little turtle]

keep talking fuzzy...