[Fuzzybear]

I, apparently, am worthless
I don’t deserve help..
My triggers and my pain are “ridiculous” - someone irl told me this

[Raindropvampire]

Don't listen to them. You are not worthless and you are entitled to your pain and triggers. They are trying to push their truth on you and tell you what your's should be and that's just wrong of them.

[Thirty shades]

The ego of people IRL,,, Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

They love to put others down, so they can feel better about themselves.
You, dear friend are not worthless..
People like this make us feel worthless
That is true

But we are amazing in our own right
We cope with so much more
And make it through the day
Because we are true AS IS....

Much love to you

[little turtle]

fuzzy---I am thinking something here that is hard to talk about...
it certainly is bad that people put us down and abuse us...
and it is nice that some people are loving with us...

there is something else...and I have a problem here...
I am very strong inside of me...but I am afraid to use it...
I lack courage to say how I am feeling to other important
people in my life....I am afraid that they will leave me...
I could not be strong with my parents....I was afraid of being
left all ALONE....so now with my wife I have a problem
of standing up for ME...the little turtle

I remember the cowardly lion in the wizard of oz..
that's me....

[mote.of.soul]

@Fuzzybear

Yes, well this 'someone' needs to be set right if you ask me Fuzzybear, yes. I'm very sorry there's so many - for want of a better description - 'douchebags' out there my friend.

I'm still trying to get my head around so many things as well.

Just know one fact, though: they're wrong and you're right. Hugs!!

[Sam Vimes]

There are plenty of us who feel that way. No matter what we do, we feel like we are not good enough. All I can offer is, hang in there! Because you are good enough.

[WishfulThinker66]

You are not worthless. You deserve good. Give yourself permission to have it.

[captaineo]

Originally Posted by mote.of.soul

@Fuzzybear


Yes, well this 'someone' needs to be set right if you ask me Fuzzybear, yes. I'm very sorry there's so many - for want of a better description - 'douchebags' out there my friend.


I'm still trying to get my head around so many things as well.


Just know one fact, though: they're wrong and you're right. Hugs!!

I also think the same way, we cannot control our triggers but we can control our thoughts. And is a positive to negative thoughts game, you have to push in the positive in more than the negative and eventually you are over the water and this is a constant exercise we need to do in my humble view. The douchebags of the world don’t deserve our caring or love so just watch them fall on their own and hopefully see if they learn something.
I tell this to my self everyday, and it works most of the time but is not easy I understand, so keep fighting and win your self out of it everyday.
Love and hugs

[Blackice1993]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I, apparently, am worthless
I don’t deserve help..
My triggers and my pain are “ridiculous” - someone irl told me this

Well, that someone is somebody who doesn't deserve to be in your life then. Emotional invalidation is one of the signs of emotional abuse, and if they tell you that your feelings are 'ridiculous', then they need to get the heck out.

[marvin_pa]

@Fuzzybear

That someone irl, is probably in need of a kick up their rear... er, attitude adjustment for their malnourished empathy. Life's too complicated to waste time & energy on such foolish, ignorant types...

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I, apparently, am worthless
I don’t deserve help..
My triggers and my pain are “ridiculous” - someone irl told me this

I am sorry you were told this. I can relate. Recently, this is how I am being treated by everyone around me. I still know they are wrong - I hope you do as well, because you deserve help and your triggers and pain are not "ridiculous". That said, I know simple head knowledge does nothing to alleviate the damaging and lingering pain that just seems to grow inside. I cannot tell you how to get rid of that pain nor how to stop it from growing. What I can tell you is you are a beautiful, wonderful, and caring person. Your inner beauty shines through everytime you respond to anyone .. be those responses in pictures, or in words - your heart of love is always shown. Whoever said those things to you ... was lashing out. Most likely it was not even really bc of you but rather just a way to alleviate the stress that was built up. I can't say for sure that'swhat it was - but most times that's what it turns out to be. Does that mean it was ok for the person to say? Certainly not. In fact, you have every reason and right to feel as you do. But - perhaps having another explanation for why it was said - may help alleviate some of that pain. ❤

Please be good to yourself