[Fuzzybear]

I guess, like many small cubs, I had some idealisation for my parental units when I was very small.

Only recently I told someone (Not anyone here) something painful I had told very few people. This was in response to personal disclosures from them. I knew them a bit from another online forum. No reply

My abusive parental units were extraordinarily concerned about their “reputation”..

All they cared about, it seemed, that they were perceived as “charming” ... and they were..

But they were far from kind to me, their only cub

I’m much less concerned about my “reputation” - judgments of others who do not understand me....... than about who I really am... a human being who makes mistakes, particularly as the result or consequence of complicated and cruel abuse by others ... and I’m not perfect either. I don’t always think everything through as much as I “should” but who genuinely cares about people..

(Not about anyone on pc)

I’m continuing on this journey we’re all on. And trying not to hurt others in that process. And doing it all without “meds” or certain other things many take for granted. And yet I’m fortunate in many ways. And I’m grateful for that

Respect and kind thoughts to all here

[Thirty shades]

((((((Fuzzybear))))))

I am sending empathy and compassion to you dear bear

[MickeyCheeky]

You've been through a lot, Fuzzybear. Now it's time to use some of that kindness for yourself - the same kindness you've ALWAYS used for EVERYONE HERE! I hope you'll learn to Accept yourself and Love yourself just as the WONDERFUL person that you are! Please be REALLY kind to yourself and don't listen to what those abusers have said ALL throughout the years! None of it is true and we know you here as the kind, sweet, wise and wonderful Bear that you are! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME as usual, my dear friend. You know I'll always be here for you just like you've always been here for me. THAT'S A PROMISE! I'm sure plenty of others will also gladly help you, support, listen to you and care about you as well! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, Fuzzybear, Papa Bear, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking!

[Mendingmysoul]

Yep,mine were too.They succeeded in showing the world that they are angels.The mask never slips.Specially my mom.She reserved her dark side for me.

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks everyone

Respect and loving kindness to all

[Skeezyks]

It would take a very long post to detail my relationship with my parents (both of whom are now long since dead.) Considering the times I think, had they had a normal boy, they'd have been pretty-good parents. Unfortunately for all three of us... they had me…

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

My abusive parental units were extraordinarily concerned about their “reputation”..

All they cared about, it seemed, that they were perceived as “charming” ... and they were..

But they were far from kind to me, their only cub

Incisive sentences, and behind them enduring torments of spirit.

A brief reading:

They imposed several different roles on you. Among the roles was to be what they needed. Another role was never to be good enough. Another role was ever to believe not being good enough was your fault.

[Thirty shades]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

It would take a very long post to detail my relationship with my parents (both of whom are now long since dead.) Considering the times I think, had they had a normal boy, they'd have been pretty-good parents. Unfortunately for all three of us... they had me…

((((((Hugs)))))) Skeezyks

I feel sure you were a normal boy. I think I was a normal girl. I wasn't the dolly my mother wanted. She was depressed and could not cope.

Of course all of this was my fault. I was blamed for my existence. Somehow from the moment of birth I was making decisions to make her life unbearable.

[Thirty shades]

Originally Posted by Rohag

Incisive sentences, and behind them enduring torments of spirit.

A brief reading:

They imposed several different roles on you. Among the roles was to be what they needed. Another role was never to be good enough. Another role was ever to believe not being good enough was your fault.

Rohag

Thank you for posting, baby TS could never manage to be what was needed. I can see that now.

I would never have been able to be good enough and they tried to make me believe that. Mostly I don't but somewhere deep in my brain there is a place that knows it to be true and thus here I am today suffering.

[little turtle]

beautifully said fuzzy.....take care of that cute little cub...

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

It would take a very long post to detail my relationship with my parents (both of whom are now long since dead.) Considering the times I think, had they had a normal boy, they'd have been pretty-good parents. Unfortunately for all three of us... they had me…

Skeezyks

much respect and loving kindness to you

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Rohag

Incisive sentences, and behind them enduring torments of spirit.

A brief reading:

They imposed several different roles on you. Among the roles was to be what they needed. Another role was never to be good enough. Another role was ever to believe not being good enough was your fault.

Thank you dear Rohag for always being respectful, compassionate and understanding.

much respect and loving kindness to you

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

((((((Fuzzybear))))))

I am sending empathy and compassion to you dear bear

(((((((((( Thirty shades )))))))))

I'm sending compassion, respect and empathy to you, dear friend

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

You've been through a lot, Fuzzybear. Now it's time to use some of that kindness for yourself - the same kindness you've ALWAYS used for EVERYONE HERE! I hope you'll learn to Accept yourself and Love yourself just as the WONDERFUL person that you are! Please be REALLY kind to yourself and don't listen to what those abusers have said ALL throughout the years! None of it is true and we know you here as the kind, sweet, wise and wonderful Bear that you are! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME as usual, my dear friend. You know I'll always be here for you just like you've always been here for me. THAT'S A PROMISE! I'm sure plenty of others will also gladly help you, support, listen to you and care about you as well! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, Fuzzybear, Papa Bear, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking!

(((((((((((( MickeyCheeky )))))))))) (heart)

much respect and loving kindness to you dear friend (grouphug)

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

Rohag

Thank you for posting, baby TS could never manage to be what was needed. I can see that now.

I would never have been able to be good enough and they tried to make me believe that. Mostly I don't but somewhere deep in my brain there is a place that knows it to be true and thus here I am today suffering.

I understand dear friend

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by little turtle

beautifully said fuzzy.....take care of that cute little cub...

(((((((((( little turtle ))))))))))

thank you dear friend