[Fuzzybear]

Someone else’s post here, or the title, resonated with me.

I rarely voice those feelings, or maybe I do

It’s an attack from inside and outside..

“why can’t I just be stronger”

And not have ever gone for help..

Or walked out before the “bad fit” between the professionals irl and I became more harmful..

In more than one case that would be in less than 3 minutes

Sorry for the rant

I hope this doesn’t trigger anyone. There have been a few triggers for me today re ....

Why can’t I “just be stronger”

(sorry about “using” someone else’s words, I think so many with mh issues feel this or have felt it.. there aren’t all that many different ways of expressing it, that I have found

(not about anyone here)

[Lilly2]

Awe, @Fuzzybear

(((safe hugs)))

I remember that post, and I, too, feel that way at times. I have to remind myself that when I'm thinking those thoughts or feeling that way that it's my mental illness talking, my depression, my inside people's depression, etc. I also remind myself that other people may have issues of their own, and sometimes they don't know how to respond to me, but that's okay, because we all have a right to our feelings, and it shouldn't be taken personal. We are all struggling to make it in this world, and here on PC, most of us are struggling with mental illnesses. There's bound to be some ruptures on here sometimes, but we can always stick it out and work it through. Besides, there are safe mods and admins monitoring the forums, so we can always ask one of them when we need help.

Meanwhile, you are a good paws, no matter what! We got the opportunity and privilege to get to know you a little. We know you help others, and we know you're kind, and we know that you're sometimes funny, and we know that you are strong (including the grr bear, but also you, too), and we know that you struggle with symptoms of things - many symptoms that we, too, struggle with. We know that you need to hibernate sometimes (we do, too).

We all wish we were stronger and not dealing with mental illnesses - myself included. It's hard to feel that way, but we are strong for being alive, being here and reaching out for help, communicating our needs and our feelings to other people, etc. We are strong by dealing with these mental illnesses in a way that most people cannot understand; it's an insight that we all share and understand, to one degree or another. Even the man who wrote that post is strong, as I got to interact with him on some levels. He is struggling like many of us have once struggled with, to one degree or another.

Many of the words we use are similar to the words others have used, and vice versa. It's totally okay.

(((safe hugs))) I'm sorry you struggled with professionals who hurt you, too. That's really hard to deal with.

It's okay that you share these feelings. There are many resources we can try to use to help us when we are feeling this way. What works for some may not work for others, but we try to tell our parts that everyone in our system is loved by me, the host, and by one another - even if they don't think or know it yet. And we say that to you, too: Fuzzybear, grr bear, and company: Everyone in your system is good paws, and everyone in your system is loved, even if it doesn't feel that way. We have to communicate to each of our inner parts how much we all love and support one another, and how much each part of us has done what they could to help one another, even if we don't see it yet. We will.

We can also use the coping skills we've learned in treatment - whichever ones have helped you in the past, like finding something fun to do, or finding a safe place or safe object, or calling for support, or reaching out on PC or other forums. It's okay to ask for help. If we are not sleeping (hibernating), we will help.

I hope what I'm saying makes sense. You are a strong paws and a good paws. It's okay if we have mental illness symptoms. We are all working on our healing and recovery together, in various stages and types, but together. (((safe hugs)))

[Thirty shades]

I would say you are strong dear Fuzzybear.

You are still here even though life has not been a pleasant ride.

We may feel weak, which is normal and natural but we are much stronger than those who breeze through life without our worries....

[Rohag]

((((((( )))))))

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Or walked out before the “bad fit” between the professionals irl and I became more harmful.

Here's a thought consider or discard: Even as a person can employ strength to help the self or harm another, it is possible to employ that same strength to harm the self or help another.

It took strength - significant strength - to keep on with those professionals despite the harm to yourself. You were also "helping" them.

A Question Without A Sure Answer: What causes a person to channel strength toward what harms the self?