[LiloLana]

I'm afraid I'll never be in a genuine committed relationship due to how unattractive I am. My looks already limit my opportunities and it clearly affects how people treat me on a daily basis. I'm thinking about calling in sick tomorrow from work because I feel uglier than usual. I think I'm getting more and more ugly as time goes on and I'm growing unbelievable ugly at a rapid pace. I'm only 22 years old and I feel like I shouldn't be alive. If I had a support system, maybe this would be more bearable for me but I don't, so it's stressing me out. Today I took a video of myself with the back camera on my phone. The back camera usually shows all my flaws so I thought taking a video with the back camera would show how I look like to others. When I watched that video of myself, I was very sad. I look mad. My forehead is too low. My hair is disgusting. My back is arched. Everything is wrong. And I don't want to live like this. How do I get over how I look?

[WormholeWizard]

Originally Posted by LiloLana

I'm afraid I'll never be in a genuine committed relationship due to how unattractive I am. My looks already limit my opportunities and it clearly affects how people treat me on a daily basis. I'm thinking about calling in sick tomorrow from work because I feel uglier than usual. I think I'm getting more and more ugly as time goes on and I'm growing unbelievable ugly at a rapid pace. I'm only 22 years old and I feel like I shouldn't be alive. If I had a support system, maybe this would be more bearable for me but I don't, so it's stressing me out. Today I took a video of myself with the back camera on my phone. The back camera usually shows all my flaws so I thought taking a video with the back camera would show how I look like to others. When I watched that video of myself, I was very sad. I look mad. My forehead is too low. My hair is disgusting. My back is arched. Everything is wrong. And I don't want to live like this. How do I get over how I look?

my dear friend , i dont know if i can find words to make it easier on you but i can tell you this :

we all was created from a source (some people call God) and we all have life within us and this life is divine , what people think and how people see us is not relevant , i promise you if you search with your mind and not your eyes you will find some people who likes you and will love you , how you look is something you had no choice in and it will not change , but how you feel and you perspective is changeable, i have this issue too and i hate my photos or
seeing videos of me , dont let this stop you from doing what you love and heading to your true potential , do a research on female scientists or authors and artists , women who made history , most of them didnt look anywhere near attractive and it didnt stop them , the media is whats wrong with us , the media that will always give is a scale to everything ,
my dear friend , you are divine and you are from source .

[winter4me]

That is the depression talking-------pulling you out of the world you need to be a part of---I know the feeling and it can feel relentless BUT believe it or not it isn't much of an issue for others, the way you interact with others is----and if you get out there, stop with the video/mirrors (not easy these days) and focus on your job, the people around you, show an interest in them, you will find that the preoccupation will diminish (you may still feel overwhelmed by it at times alone but far less with others) and you will be OK. This really is the disease/disorder talking. Do things that make you feel better (eg: I know that when I am physically active regularly I feel as if I look better---better than I do now for sure----when I eat healthy and help others (or am just friendly casually) I feel better. Also remember, most people have some insecurities about their looks, even those you would least expect (& for all I know you are actually stunning physically but it doesn't matter)------and long term relationships do not survive, grow, or rely on appearances. ((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))

[AzulOscuro]

It can be objective or subjective. There are many advances to get a better physical appearance. You could use it.
But, I wanted to talk to you about my own personal experience.

I always have a similar problem. I didn’t dare to go out home because I felt ugly and the most rare creature.
Neither social skills, nor a little of beauty, I thought.
Then, I understood with therapy and having a little self-knowledge, I worsened things with my state of depression and my lack of confidence. I was said that I’m over the average but I couldn’t or can’t see it.
When I got to tidy up a little my inner life, somehow, this satisfaction were transmitted to each pore of my skin and your beauty will be evident.
It’s truth that there are scientific measures for that we called beauty but people can also be attractive.
I pay attention to my physics. I know it’s important to give an acceptable impression but I also pay attention to my state of mood. Both feed each other.
I personally find a person who is attractive or present somehow attractive more appealing than a person who is beautiful.