I'm the ugliest man alive

themagicman · Jan 24, 2020, 07:00 PM

Hello, I feel like I'm the ugliest man alive and that No women would want me.My therapist doesn't help me..

..I feel like I'm the only one that cant be helped.Does anyone feel that way also?

Purple,Violet,Blue · Jan 24, 2020, 07:45 PM

Yes, I've had therapists who made me feel that way. In my case, I had complicated issues around food and body image. I really felt that I could have liked my body - even though it wasn't as thin as the media images around me suggested it should be - with help from the t. Disastrously, she seemed to agree that I should lose weight. I was devastated.

I'm sure you're not ugly. You don't have to be classically handsome to be loved.

Fuzzybear · Jan 25, 2020, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

Yes, I've had therapists who made me feel that way. In my case, I had complicated issues around food and body image. I really felt that I could have liked my body - even though it wasn't as thin as the media images around me suggested it should be - with help from the t. Disastrously, she seemed to agree that I should lose weight. I was devastated.

I'm sure you're not ugly. You don't have to be classically handsome to be loved.

I've had a therapist who made me feel that way also. I too had some complicated issues around food and body image. Grrrrr… that T.

I'm also sure you are not ugly and are loveable.

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re harsh inner critics and issues around food and body image. I do not know how to multi quote

If I knew how to multi quote I would quote both posts, the OP's post as well.. please forgive my paws (and my species

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I am also sure that you (and nobody in this thread) are not ''the only one that can't be helped''... Lies such as this usually are the result of ongoing abuse and a harsh inner critic which has internalised the cruel lies of others who put good people down in order to feel better about themselves and/or are physically violent. People like that are very ''sad'' and cruel people and often are..... difficult to help, unless they start to own some of their stuff instead of dumping it on innocent others.

bpcyclist · Jan 25, 2020, 03:57 PM

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I am quite sure you are not ugly, whatever that word even means.

Have you ever read about body dysmorphic disorder, by chance? If not, I'd advise that you do so and see if you honestly, in your heart of hearts, think you might could have it. If so, then some medications may help.

Sending you support and peace.

themagicman · Jan 25, 2020, 09:00 PM

Thanks guys for the kind words...You guys are my support...Thanks again

hopealwayz · Jan 26, 2020, 07:54 PM

I’m sorry that your therapist wasn’t helpful with that. I’m sure you are not ugly and you sound like a really great and wonderful guy.

downandlonely · Jan 26, 2020, 07:57 PM

I'm sorry you feel that way. I think the problem is more with your self esteem than your physical appearance. I'm sorry your therapist won't help.

themagicman · Feb 11, 2020, 11:54 PM

I have been looking into the Body Dysmorphic Disorder....More so then usual....I think there was denial that I had Body Dysmorphic Disorder...

bpcyclist · Feb 12, 2020, 02:01 AM

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I have been looking into the Body Dysmorphic Disorder....More so then usual....I think there was denial that I had Body Dysmorphic Disorder...

Good for you. We support you!!

Purple,Violet,Blue · Feb 12, 2020, 03:00 AM

I'm pleased you're leaning towards a diagnosis or treatment that might address this awful feeling.

I'd imagine that diagnosing this condition would be somewhat broad? I'm not sure, but it would for instance cross over with what people with eating orders experience...

But maybe that doesn't matter too much, as the treatment would in any case be targeting useful areas, like self esteem...

Big hugs.