[Fuzzybear]

Many times. And that is the truth. I have been genuinely there for many who have been in pain, to offer genuine support. Often to my own detriment.... and I am NOT saying that is a ''good'' thing to support others to MY detriment.... but it may show I am not a terrible person. I know my own heart. And I am not implying anyone thinks I am terrible.... it is MY internal snake who calls me out as ''terrible'' for breathing oxygen.

You?

ETA I request that replies are only about online friends or contacts...… since my ''family'' of origin were (and are) grossly unsupportive. hence talk of such is a trigger for me

[Fuzzybear]

Where did everyone go?

I hope everyone is doing ok...

[Rohag]

How many times have I been genuinely extended support to online friends and contacts?
I don't know. I am an individual of diminishing energies, but it has been online, and particularly at PC, I have attempted to be supportive of others.
How effective my attempts have been is another question.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Rohag

How many times have I been genuinely extended support to online friends and contacts?
I don't know. I am an individual of diminishing energies, but it has been online, and particularly at PC, I have attempted to be supportive of others.
How effective my attempts have been is another question.

I think I can answer that question better than maybe you can but I won't.

or maybe I will, briefly, try

Rohag is always genuine and supportive

''effectiveness'' isn't the issue imo, but if it was, I do think you are effective

much respect and appreciation

fuzzy paws

[Fuzzybear]

btw this wasn't meant to be a ''loaded'' question, whatever that is.

[Fuzzybear]

[Fuzzybear]

[Fuzzybear]

[Thirty shades]

I try to support others.

I have empathy and compassion for them but feel that I can only support rather than make a real difference.

[TishaBuv]

I have over 7000 posts on here.. I am always genuine. I am trying to be here for myself and will try to support others along the way. Am I helpful? IDK. We don’t know how we touch others as we go through life. Maybe someone up there is keeping score? My intentions are good.

I have seen you be supportive on here countless times, Fuzzy. Even if it only helps us when we try to help others, we’ll that still helps someone, right?

My personal life is in tatters. I think I’m doing better anonymously on here, and I hardly even post here now. So if I am gaining any points somewhere for my tiny contribution here, maybe it will offset the negative effects of my personal experience.

[TunedOut]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Many times. And that is the truth. I have been genuinely there for many who have been in pain, to offer genuine support. Often to my own detriment.....

Originally Posted by Rohag

How effective my attempts have been is another question.

Originally Posted by Thirty shades

I have empathy and compassion for them but feel that I can only support rather than make a real difference.

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Am I helpful? IDK. We don’t know how we touch others as we go through life. .

I have already told Fuzzy and Tisha that you'all were there when I really needed support but I do want to acknowledge Rohag and Thirty shades too! Much love to you'all--I appreciate what kind, smart people you all are through and through!!

Sometimes, we need to take time for just ourselves. I have learned that, in order to nurture others, I have to nurture myself first. You are all natural nurturers but never feel like you need to be here when you are not feeling it because the world has drained you. You will be at your brightest when your needs are met.

My wish is that we all figure out what we need (I mostly have and hope you all do too ) then figure out how to go out and get it (I am still working on this and may never achieve it but am really trying). Bless all of you. Remember to put yourselves first because all of you are very, very giving people. Love yourselves because you are all so great!!

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

For me, this is a safe space, where people carry out altruistic acts in a remarkably unselfish way.

I get quite emotionally involved when a member has some issue. Am I a caring person because of harrowing experiences I've had in the past? Because of my subsequent low self-esteem? I've given up trying to work it out, really, but probably...

But I've been able to ask for and receive support here on PC, which is pretty miraculous for someone like me!

[TunedOut]

Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

I get quite emotionally involved when a member has some issue. Am I a caring person because of harrowing experiences I've had in the past?

I think we do this when we have felt some of the same agony they have. Hugs. I try not to worry why I feel like I do. My POV is none of our feelings are wrong, they are just feelings. All we can do is try to be less impulsive when we act from a place of pain. Hugs.

[little turtle]

my needs right now .......... taking care of the LITTLE turtle....

thanks fuzzy for posting this...and all the other good comments

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks everyone

much love


(btw I have been avoiding another forum (not pc) which had become ''toxic'' so maybe … in time.. avoiding going there might help. and mindfulness )