[RedPenny]

So 2 years ago I had a miscarriage at 3 months. 2 months later, I married my now exhusband. Things were great, so I thought. 3 months into our marriage I found out he was sending vulgar pics to other women and having an affair at work (his new job because he left the business I helped him start because he couldn’t agree with one of his partners). I kick him out, file for divorce and boom this coworker is pregnant and he’s moved in with her. Fast forward we get divorced in April of last year, 2 days later he has his son. Calls me from hospital saying he wished it was with me blah blah. No we’ve been divorced a year, his son is 1 (has some developmental issues), he lives with her, yet he still calls me and stops by my house at least once a month. He also has a drinking and spending problem he won’t admit to. Says he doesn’t want to marry her but he can’t leave his son yet and that I am his end game. Help me wake up please. I can’t help but be jealous and envious that she took what my life was supposed to be away, therefore it’s hard to let go. I am getting therapy starting next week. Otherwise my 2 business are booming (medical supply sales and casino events business) and I’ve got my **** together. I’m 33, I’m scared I’ll never remarry and have the family I deserve. I just can’t seem to believe he is bad.i believe everything he says, I have some hope he will come back...i am just not sure why. Oh and he’s a chef, if that even needs to be stated. But it’s his 4th job since I’ve known him...for 6 years. I’m sad, depressed and I cry still. He’s still in my life but he won’t fully come back. I also don’t know why I would want him to. I miss him terribly. Maybe I’m lonely and scared of the future? I don’t know. I just need advice, support, opinions, anything. It’s really hard, especially when everything else is so great. It brings me down. I’m not sure why I even believe him but I do.

[Open Eyes]

Oh sweetheart you need to see a therapist and do some reading about toxic men. This guy cheated on you and he got this other girl pregnant and now he wants to cheat on her? Good god he is a cheat and a loser. You deserve way better than a guy like that. He is just a selfish jerk not worth your heartache.

[sarahsweets]

I understand why you are jealous but its still a negative thing and its not the other womans' fault it is your exes fault. There is nothing wrong with you as a person its him.

[Thirty shades]

Welcome to PC. I feel for you Red Penny.

From experience your ex sounds like the sort of man that will never settle down with you (just you) like you deserve. I spent time getting over someone, seeing them for who they really were and things got better. Focus on his negatives and not your feelings for him. I told my feelings that they had evolved because of false facts. I would not of fallen for the truth had I known it on day one.

You have built businesses and a strong work ethic. I bet there are lots of men out there who would love to get to know you and treat you the way you deserve.