[devondegenero]

I have traumatic memories. My doctor told me the difference between traumatic memories and normal memories is traumatic memories you feel like your still in the traumatic moment and not in present time. Reliving the nightmare of the trauma over and over again. Im looking for some tools to help defeat this trauma. Knowing its in the past and trying to move on helps. If anyone has any tips response.

one of the things I have is a grounding cupboard, and it's full of objects that help me think of happy, positive memories

when I'm having a flashback, or a trauma memory, I hold the items from my cupboard and it helps me relax a little, and ground myself. it works

I also use my senses- what do I hear, what do I smell, what do I see, etc

[Open Eyes]

Have you tried working with a trauma therapist? You may be struggling with ptsd. Ptsd has anxiety and depression as well as these intrusive memories you are talking about.

[Toughcooki]

Originally Posted by devondegenero

I have traumatic memories. My doctor told me the difference between traumatic memories and normal memories is traumatic memories you feel like your still in the traumatic moment and not in present time. Reliving the nightmare of the trauma over and over again. Im looking for some tools to help defeat this trauma. Knowing its in the past and trying to move on helps. If anyone has any tips response.

I don't think that's true - I have buckets of traumatic memories, and I don't feel like I'm *in* them. (My body, however, does react as though I'm re-experiencing events. Adrenaline rush, fear, etc)
Heck, I don't even feel like I'm *in* the current moment. I don't feel much of anything, really, lol.
Mental health is not one-size-fits-all.

[devondegenero]

Well for me the trauma is like a nightmare so exierencing it sometimes can feel real.

[Toughcooki]

Originally Posted by devondegenero

Well for me the trauma is like a nightmare so exierencing it sometimes can feel real.

I agree, and many people do have those flashbacks where it feels like you're right back in the middle of it. I'm just saying that some people don't have those & not having those doesn't mean it's not PTSD

[devondegenero]

I guess whats so real about it is the pain and hurt you experienced. It takes along time to heal.

[Fuzzybear]

I certainly do not think that mental health is ''one size fits all''

(and at risk of being ''boringly'' repetitive that, imho, is one of the ''failings'' so rampant in this forest IRL - the ''one size fits all'' and... I've said it before... their ''limited vocabulary''. I prefer to work with a T who
1) Is at least as intelligent as I am
2) does not treat me with patronising contempt
3) does not pretend not to realise that real healing takes a very long time and if it does it is not the ''fault of the patient''
4) Does not reference other ''patients'' and compare their pain or make disparaging comments about them.... A T who had me did this (sorry about the rant. I have trauma from childhood and a negligent T in ''real life'' retraumatised me. Negligent T's, I believe, are rare. In most forests.

[Toughcooki]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I certainly do not think that mental health is ''one size fits all''

(and at risk of being ''boringly'' repetitive that, imho, is one of the ''failings'' so rampant in this forest IRL - the ''one size fits all'' and... I've said it before... their ''limited vocabulary''. I prefer to work with a T who
1) Is at least as intelligent as I am
2) does not treat me with patronising contempt
3) does not pretend not to realise that real healing takes a very long time and if it does it is not the ''fault of the patient''
4) Does not reference other ''patients'' and compare their pain or make disparaging comments about them.... A T who had me did this (sorry about the rant. I have trauma from childhood and a negligent T in ''real life'' retraumatised me. Negligent T's, I believe, are rare. In most forests.

I would be pleased to find a T who fits 2 of the 4, lol. I keep hearing that 'it doesn't work unless you do the work and if you were doing the work you'd be done in the 8 weeks you have allotted'

[Fuzzybear]

A grounding cupboard is helpful to me