Male 45 divorced living in Tokyo

Thank you, my friend. I really hope we can have more balance in life. Not all can be suffering, we should have our climbings, moving through scorching deserts, and we should be able to reach an oasis every now and then. Life is never been a straight line. I like to think that you and the rest of us part of our mission in life is to support one another. Throughout the years in Taptalk, I have met wonderful people like you and through your words, I have managed to continue on. Blessings, lots of love and hug, BTW, the reason I always end my messages like this is because you never know. if and when I can say this again. So million hugs and hope the light shines on all of you at least for a while or enough for making life a bit easier to cope.

Thank you Rohag, your words are like music or fresh water. I am fighting everyday, start the day thinking about not best of things too put it moderately sir but is tough sir. Something inside, I wouldnt mind joining the military and put myself in one of those dangeous jobs '(not doing harm to anyone) but rather saving lives. I want my life to have some final purpose

Dear Friends, just checking in and reaching out. Theses days have been rough and I find myself thinking again too much, I had a drink of alcohol and this because it was the birthday of my daughter and could not see her in 7 years. I am so broken inside and I wanted to ask you , kind people for some lines of wisdom and encouragement. I am lost.
God bless you where ever you are and find yourself.
Best regards,
Eladio

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I can only share the wisdom I have gained over many years of parental alienation and finally estrangement from my adult daughter.

-The pain & sense of loss never really goes completely away, it only becomes more manageable or more easily suppressed when you fill your life with other things. Replacing the hurt & pain with positive things like a social life or the hobbies/passions that you love and occupy your mind and soul.

-Holidays and harvest time of the year are always tough to get thru if you're lonely, best to surround yourself with positive people if you can.

-Alchohol is a depressant, not the best thing to add to your system if you are already depressed.

-Take the time to really look at your statement "broken inside", things like this leave emotional scars so deep you may feel broken, but eventually you will realize the scar is a badge of courage.

I don't know how you can be kept from your child for 7 years, as a father you have legal rights to be part of your child's life through court ordered visitation. I'm unaware of how you are denied this, unless there is something you have not revealed about your legal situation.

Hello, Captaineo.
Here's to your daughter!
Here's to you!

Dear Friends,

Thank you for your kind messages of wisdom. Somehow your words encourage me to keep fighting. I live in Japan and if you guys check you will see that father alienation is common, snd though there are visitation rights I have to take to court to get them. And I have done this and gone to court but my ex never shows up and the court can’t ultimately force my ex , and I got tired of paying expensive lawyers when that money I could have been adding it to the kids trust. But I gave it a shot with lawyers. I need to find a better lawyer, but in the mid o things several things happened COVIT, since I’m a freelance consultant I lost projects and had to survive on jobs and on less, I’m a PR in Japan but not really a J national so also the fact one is foreign one needs to be careful not to come across as stalker of any kind or give ammunition to them to use against me.
Life has not been kind my friends, but I should focus on positive, I have now good jobs and getting myself better in some areas, but not lying to you alcohol is becoming an issue for me. May be the piled up stress, trauma, my anxiety and depression. I managed to stay without alcohol since 2015 until few months ago , I think need to stop it and but not as easy.
I live my life like an open book as you may see, but I am grateful for you guys , your responses made this month or year better. I wished I reached out earlier.
Thank you , god bless you.

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Hi Captain Neo,
Sorry to hear about your personal struggles. I just wanted to let you know that you might be able to find someone to talk to. I googled AA meetings in Tokyo(aatokyo.org), where you might find some support. There seems to be a good # of meetings. Maybe you could try this? and just listen to others and see if anything the people are saying resonates with you in regards to your issue w/alcohol. I hope your doing okay and please take good care of yourself.

Dear friend, thank you so much for your advise. I will reach out to the group and go to the meeting see if it works. Appreciate this very much . It means a lot to me since I feel like a lone wolf but with you guys I feel member of a pack and that matters so much to me. I am also RC so I believe in God and still have Faith

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My Dear Friends,
I turned
years old and just wa tend to check in with you. I am still struggling but putting up a fight. Now it has been
years since I saw my daughters last and is breaking me inside, now I live with someone who was at the beginning I thought a good partner but has turned to be an abuser and harraser. Brings the sadness in me, takes what little joy I have left in me. See I was very unlucky and I don’t know what was best because I fell ill and had nobody she offered to sustain me financially for a bit but that turned out to be a nightmare in the end as she has asked me for more and more and manipulates me every chance she has. I wished I just went bankrupt and started again on my own but she has been a horrible advisor and companion. But I don’t know what to do …. My other mental issues continue and is all too much … so much I am afraid about what I end up doing to my self. Also the holidays are close and every time the heart and spirit takes a hit as I am utterly alone.
Sorry dear friends for this message . This is me…
I do wish you all always the best of what life can give you
Sincerely
EO

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