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Default Mar 26, 2024 at 11:23 AM
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hi everyone,
i have a problem, which im not sure how to sort .........

a few months ago i had a appointment with the mental health team (in the uk) as i was having a hard time (again)
the appointment was over 20 miles away from my local area, which is fine, i got there early and went into the building on my own , which was stressful for me as i dont like meeting new people.
i must of been waiting about 10 minutes when two women came out to the waiting area to get me .

no problem so far i hear you say.

i followed the women into a large room , and i did what i always do when i enter a strange room, i checked where the exits were.
im not going to bore you with all the appointment. but i will get to the point, the conversation got onto moods and temper, which i thought was a bit strange as im not prone to losing my temper. i have moods where i sulk and go off on my own.
then one of the women said " fighting in the street with your wife" . i was shocked as i have never fought my wife in the street or anywhere.
i wasnt slow in saying " NO" and i tried to explain this never happened. but that was the end of the appointment for me, they were talking to me but i never heard a word they were saying, i was in shock
now i come to the problem
that was a few months ago, ive had no help from mental health team, i got a letter saying , they were unable to help me as i wont help myself.
i havent told my wife about the appointment , i am now scared to contact the mht , i fear they would not help me anyway as they have branded me a woman beater.
this is just making my mental health worse

anyone who knows me on here, knows im married to another member ' katheryn' and i owe my life to her,

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Default Mar 26, 2024 at 03:11 PM
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Oh dec/trm,

I'm so sorry this happened to you.

Dealing with the "system" has let me down on more than one occasion. But there are some shining stars with genuine empathy who've helped me, so I don't want you to think it's all bad.

1) Are there any peer support group where you are who could advocate for you?

2) Might you consider speaking to your wife about this and perhaps showing her the letter? That might help you feel less-stressed in the long-run, no?

3) It might be worth it to respond to the letter to counter their points in a professional manner and send it registered mail.

4) Do you have a pdoc and a family doc? Would you discuss this with them to ask for some guidance and advocacy?

You met the wrong people... sadly... who were there to help you and they didn't. This has happened to me where I've been judged and alienated. So, it's normal to feel threatened and stressed. You are not alone.

I think the best route would be to set the record straight. The sooner the better so you can lay this to rest and have access to the services you need and are entitled to.
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hi everyone,
i have a problem, which im not sure how to sort .........
a few months ago i had a appointment with the mental health team (in the uk) as i was having a hard time (again)
the appointment was over 20 miles away from my local area, which is fine, i got there early and went into the building on my own , which was stressful for me as i dont like meeting new people.
i wasnt slow in saying " NO" and i tried to explain this never happened. but that was the end of the appointment for me, they were talking to me but i never heard a word they were saying, i was in shock
now i come to the problem
that was a few months ago, ive had no help from mental health team, i got a letter saying , they were unable to help me as i wont help myself.
i havent told my wife about the appointment , i am now scared to contact the mht , i fear they would not help me anyway as they have branded me a woman beater.
this is just making my mental health worse
I don't like meeting new people either, especially ones like that. I have more important things to do with my time, such as take a bath is sulfuric acid. I was a healthcare provider, and when people are that incompetent, it is a catastrophe. I once sat through half a session with a therapist I had been seeing for six months calling me Richard. We talked about a great deal of conditions, which I don't have and my name is not Richard. I finally got up and checked, he had the wrong chart. I sat back down and was so angry, I took my bottle of Xanax out of my pocket to get one. Then I just started shaking it at him much like a rattlesnake. I finally got up and left, never to return, and found an actual good therapist. Really sorry that happened to you, there is no excuse for it.

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Thank you all for your replies , I just hope I'm strong enough to do some of the things mentioned.

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