venting

I'm so sick of my mom. She is such a freaking hypocrite. She gets on her high horse or soap box and judges everyone for the things they do. If someone lies, she'll tell me and everyone else that person is a bad person but then she goes and lies. Its okay if she does it but god forbid anyone else do it. Or the other day, her and I were talking about how a friend of mine is sleeping with her boyfriend and they aren't married. So my mom begins to tell me that my friend is a bad person because she is doing this and that my friends parents are bad parents because they let their daughter do it. My friend lives on her own so there isn't much her parents can do. But what gets me is that my mom judges my friend and my friends parents but yet for the last 2 months my mom has been sleeping with the guy that she is seeing and they aren't married. Someone told my mom that what she was doing was wrong and my mom flipped. She told them that it wasn't their right to judge her. So why is it okay for her to judge others but yet not okay for someone to judge her? Why is it okay for her to lie, cheat, and steal but not anyone else? My mom is such a hypocrite. I can't wait to get out on my own. I know this is going to sound mean but the truth is that the sooner I get out the better off I'll be. I know that my depression isn't her fault but the truth is that she contributes to it. Sorry I had to vent.

Yeah, I hate that kind of people. Parents seem to have a special skill to hypocrisy. I hope you can escape that foul influence as soon as possible.

let it all out hunny that's why we come here

Its hard to deal with people that aggravate our depression... especially when we can't really get away from them or if they're family.

((((((((((((maymie)))))))))))))

It's pretty commonly accepted that we rail against that which we see a lack of in ourselves. While I don't appreciate hypocrisy, I do feel some pity for your mom, who I think obviously is demonstrating some remorse or shame over her own actions. For what it's worth, I personally see no harm in premarital sex, and oftentimes our own desires and lifestyles come into contact with our philosophies, creating a lot of unnecessary conflict. Not that your mom should throw her philosophy to the wind, of course, but in my view, would be better off reconciling her own life with it.
Love you both.

We have to vent! Go for it! It is hard to feel good about ourselves when we have criticisms coming at us. I wish I could let them roll off of me, even when I know they are unfounded. I also know that no matter how hard i try i can 't please everyone and I am now trying to please myself--oh but then I feel guilty! It's helpful reading your venting though, it's cathartic and brave--I think!
J.