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Apr 24, 2008, 06:55 PM
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I'm having a really hard time dealing with life. My Dad passed away suddenly in Dec. Then in Feb I had a missed misscarriage. 3 weeks after that my boyfriend broke up with me. There has been this girl who has been a problem in our relationship since pretty much the begining. They have never met only chatted on yahoo im and maybe a few phone calls. He said he wanted to see if they could ever have something. So here I am feeling like a worthless person. He tells me this 3 weeks after we lost our baby A few weeks ago he said he he never gave us a chance to be happy and wanted to start over. Like a idiot I let him back in. I'm in CO and he's in AZ. I went to see him last week. We had a beautiful time. Talked a lot and made plans. I come home and he starts acting weird again. I'm a mess I'm so confused. I don't know what to do anymore. I have never loved anyone like i love him. I have never given myself completly to anyone else. I'm so lost. Why can't I ever be good enough for anyone.
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Apr 24, 2008, 07:34 PM
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((((((((((carleela08))))))))))))) He doesn't sound very reliable, and it doesn't sound like it's in your best interest to be in a relationship with him if you're not sure about things.
I'm sorry you're going through a rough time. Be gentle to yourself. Do you have anyone to talk to, like a counsellor?
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Apr 24, 2008, 07:53 PM
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((((((((((((( carleela08 ))))))))))))))
 
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Apr 24, 2008, 08:26 PM
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(((((((((((( Carleela08 )))))))))))))))))))
You are good enough, it sounds like your boyfriend just doesn't know what he wants right now, it might be wise to back off for now.
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Apr 24, 2008, 10:41 PM
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carleela, no wonder you're not doing well. You've been hit with one traumatic experience after another in a short period of time. Give yourself some time to heal. Your boyfriend may be having a hard time as well...so maybe it would be best to just leave things as they are right now. You need time for you.
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Apr 25, 2008, 07:34 AM
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I know grieving someone is a difficult challenge. You should talk to someone who can relieve your grief. They are always there in our mind, soul and body. Talking to people will help you overcome it and go on.
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Apr 25, 2008, 02:13 PM
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Why can't I ever be good enough for anyone? because you don't believe that you are...otherwise, if you did you would'nt need someone to tell you to drop that superficial playboy and find someone who will "bring something to the table", and who will be there for you when you need them. the best advice here is to start making an investment in yourself and your self esteem, get some good books about codependancy (co-dependant no more is one) and read them. If you truly want happiness in your life, it has to start with YOU sister, a bank wont give you a loan until you prove that you don't need one, relationships are kind of the same. Good Luck To You, remember,we teach people how to treat us
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Apr 25, 2008, 03:33 PM
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I'm so sorry that you are going through so much. We'll be here for you.
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Apr 26, 2008, 08:54 AM
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Wow, that is a lot to deal with. I am so sorry.
Do you have any close friends? Siblings maybe? If there is anyone you can confide in, that could help you. That's a lot of grief to deal with all at once. Anyone would crack under all that. I'm so sorry. I hope you can find comfort eventually. |
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Apr 26, 2008, 10:02 AM
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Welcome to PC. I am so sorry that things are so hard for you now. I hope soon you will see that you are good enough for anyone and always have been. Please take care and keep posting if it helps.
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May 01, 2008, 03:51 AM
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Thinking of you
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May 01, 2008, 09:56 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
TaintedGoth1 said: carleela, no wonder you're not doing well. You've been hit with one traumatic experience after another in a short period of time. Give yourself some time to heal. Your boyfriend may be having a hard time as well...so maybe it would be best to just leave things as they are right now. You need time for you. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I agree with TaintedGoth1. I think the best advice for you is to appreciate the distance right now between you and your partner. There has been a lot happening to take in. People often say "listen to your heart" but when your heart is so torn, it makes it difficult for you to think objectively. Let you and your partner take time away for a bit until some healing has occured. A passtime to keep you busy would be helpful and some counselling would definitely benefit you. ((((Hugs)))) Take care and keep in touch if you feel the need to chat. |
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